It seems like every disagreement we have, he says he is going to divorce me, but then he calms down and forgets about it.
2006-07-18 07:51:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like an empty threat. That is his way to show his power over you.....by letting you know that he could just walk out on you and where would that leave you? Next time you get into an argument and he says that, then tell him to pack up and get out! Call his bluff!
2006-07-18 07:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two must have some issues you need to work out.
You need to sit dow and discuss why he is repeatedly telling you he wants a divorce. Does he mean it? What does he want out of the relationship etc. Then shere your point of view and see if you can't work something out.
(Always start a serious relationship discussion with the guy speaking his mind first. He will be less defensive and more willing to LISTEN to what you have to say. He won't feel ambushed and will be able to open up more.)
2006-07-18 14:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by lildarlinkristisue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably already has contemplated it if he's saying it, even if he hasn't made an attempt to follow through. His behavior is cruel and contradicts wanting to have and maintain a decent relationship with you because he is deliberately disrespecting you and your marriage and destroying the trust and the good between you as well, for whatever his reason.
2006-07-18 15:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in the back of his mind, he doesnt want to be married. He likes the "good times", but not the tough trying times. I did this to my hubby for 3 years, and we went to marriage counseling. In my head i keep thinking i dont want this, but i love him. You should check into it, or when you guys are not fighting, sit him down ond just ask him if he was serious(last week, yesterday, ect...) about the divorce. Its easier to talk when youre both calmed down. Good luck and God Bless!!!
2006-07-18 14:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he is serious. he cant just use that against you every time you guys fight. Sit down with him and talk, when you guys are both OK, let him know wxactly how you feel. Decide if he is serious or not, if he is not, then tell him not to hurt you like this. If he is, then I giess that's that. He probably just couldnt find a better way to tell you. But TALK.
2006-07-18 14:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly something is wrong, you have to talk to him and find out. he is threatening divorce b/c he doesn't know how else to make you listen or to get his point across. fighting is exhausting which is why i imagine he gives up and then in the next fight it comes back. i know this from experience, i was the one threatening divorce.....and i had good reason to. it wasn't until i started doing this that my husband finally saw that i was serious, i couldn't take it anymore and he finally stepped up.
2006-07-18 14:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man, you need a serious chat. Tell him that when he threatens divorce, whether he means it or not, it really hurts you and frightens you. Talk to a counsellor, even if he won't come with you.
2006-07-18 14:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Supernan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋