i need an answer from real women...?

Question

why r women attracted to the guys that do them wrong time after time, but wont give the really "good guys" a chance?

i do have a gf, but i was just curious, its been something that bothered me from befor i had my first gf

Answer 1

Ken I know that question even has God going: "some things just make me wanna go ummmm".

Honestly my brotha' there are women that even after they have discovered the truth about an abusive relationship, they're addicted to the abuse.

For one thing a person in an abusive relationship considers the abuse a form of love and attention. Go figure!! But it's true. Some women have been captured by the spirit of abuse and rejection and that produces low self esteem.

What they're experiencing is sometimes a learned behavior, a generational curse (something that mom, grandmother, great grandmother etc. have been in and passed it on spiritually in their family), a Freudian Oidipus Complex (trying to seek a father figure through sexual gratification{although Sigmond proports a girl seeks this in her biological father as well} ).

Okayyyy...well there seems to be a number of reasons women prefer the gangsta over the gentlemen. Don't lose the faith sweetheart there are those women (I'm one) that prefers to be treated with kindness, respect and civil.

God has that woman out there for you, be patient and you will know her when she arrives.

Peace Out.

Answer 2

I don't think that any woman goes into a relationship with the foresight to know that they will be done wrong. Usually guys/men begin to treat women badly after they have been together for a while or once they realize that that woman has strong feelings for them. Being that women tend to be more emotional, and are the ones that develop feelings for men on a faster scale as opposed to men, women tend to deal with more when their feelings are involved. So it becomes harder to break away from a bad relationship when your feelings are strong for that person. Sometimes it takes something drastic to make a woman wake up and realize that the relationship is bad. So I wouldn't say that they don't give the good guys a chance, it is just they are consumed in the bad relationship, and they don't realize that they don't have to be in it, because there just might be a guy out there that is really a good guy.

Answer 3

Maybe women find that they don't have to make a "real" commitment to a bad-boy. They can go out, have a good time, knowing that it's not going to last forever. In my experience with men, I think the "nice" guys seem to get too serious too fast....too much pressure. Whereas I never have to feel pressured with the bad-boys. They're here one day having a blast, and gone the next. There's not a drawn out bad relationship that gets really nasty in the end...just two people using each other for a great time.

Answer 4

There are women looking for good guys. I used to be attracted to not good guys. Sometimes, I think it's an excuse when the woman isn't ready to settle down, so she can blame the guy when the relationship doesn't last. Other times, I don't know, it's just a sickness. When a woman is ready for a real, meaningful relationship, then she knows she needs someone who will treat her right.

Answer 5

Because they probably grew up in a home where their father acted that way. Also, some women like bad boys and think they can change them. After years of abuse, they figure they deserve what they are getting and just give up. It is a shame. I married a good guy and preach to my single friends all the time to do the same, but they never listen and are constantly getting hurt.

Answer 6

personally, i did choose a good guy, well @ least i thought i did. after a while he started doing things that got on my nerves. i told him, but he didn't see a problem with it. that's why women choose men they are attracted to instead of the ones that look like they have some sense on the inside. good guys think they can just sit back and not worry about loosing the girl, but don't realize those are the things that make us run!!!

Answer 7

Great guys are like apples-

The best ones are at the top-

Some girls are afraid-

to get a good apple-

because they a scared

that they will fall down from the top and get hurt

so they get the rotten apples from the bottom

because they are easy to obtain

then the good apples think

that something is wrong with them

when really there isn't

they just have to wait for a girl

that is brave enogh to reach up top

so, just keep waiting, and hopefuly a girl will be brave enogh to climb the tree of apples to come for you. lol

Answer 8

Because women are stupid sometimes ... when I was a lil younger I was always attracted to men who I thought were nice until I really got to know them, and it always took me a long time to leave them, but now I'm a lil older I appreciate how good a nice guy is and what they can actually give you in your life.

Answer 9

What you really should ask is if a woman is going after men that treat her wrong time and time again instead of giving the good guys a chance, is she really worth pursuing?

Answer 10

Women like a challenge. Usually when a girl goes after an emotionally or mentally disturbed person (or worse they can't keep a job) it usually means that they are trying to change him or take care of him. Eventually we learn that it's not worth it and move on to a guy that will treat us the way we deserve.