I have this great guy who has custody of his kids, so do I therefore our time together is limited, we have so much fun together, we laugh and cut up all the time.We have a fantastic sex life. The only problem is the only way I get too see him is if I go to his house either when the kids are @ their moms or asleep.I REALLY enjoy being with him but I feel like I have made things too easy for him.I know that between his job and the kids his life is hectic, but so is mine and yet I find a way to see him as much as possible. It just doesn't seem fair.I have told him how I felt but things are still the same. What do I do??
2006-07-18 07:33:04 · 6 answers · asked by HeartsOnFire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a really great girl! That's a tough question. It sounds like he's not trying hard enough, or this relationship is a little too one-sided. There's so many factors that may be into this, that it's hard to answer. He may be gun-shy because of divorce, so he won't take the initiative. He could be overloaded with the kid situation, but I'm not too sure on that one. Even with kids, there are ways to plan ahead if he knows when his ex is going to have them, or has a baby-sitter that can watch them for a bit. Maybe try staying away for a week or two and see what happens? If he really wants you, he'll definitely pursue you. If you are just an easy fling, then you may not hear from him. Good luck!
2006-07-18 07:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, the kids are there to stay, sweetie. You need to make your move as soon as possible. Don't become too attached to the kids before you decide that they are too much to handle. Being a single parent, it is very hard to have and keep a normal relationship. Kids take up a lot of time. I don't know the whole story, but it seems like the relationship is good, and you have a good man. Maybe it goes deeper than the kids, maybe something else is bothering you about your man. Maybe if you stop coming around so much, he will get the point.
2006-07-18 07:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to make sure things are serious before he lets the kids get to know you. If he is a good father, he won't let the kids get attached to someone who won't be around long. Just give him time. However, if things start getting serious and he still acts like that.... Well the skeptic in me says, he's just using you.
2006-07-18 07:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're saying. You feel like it's all one sided. You make all the effort and he doesn't seem to take the initiative when it comes to seeing you.
I would just say to him, "When you are free next time, make a plan for the day and I'll be happy to spend it with you."
It's his turn to make an effort and show you that he wants to see you as much as you do him.
2006-07-18 07:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with him ??? Most parents won't introduce their kids to "another partner" until they are sure it's gonna work, at least that way they are not going to screw the kids head up.
Maybe you should be patient for a while and see where it leads?
2006-07-18 07:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you aren't good enough to share with his family, just with his bedroom. Don't you find this disappointing and unfulfilling? How would you know he is great with his kids? Do you spend anytime with them as a group. You deserve better! Unless you like being a girl toy.
2006-07-18 07:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋