He broke up with me not fort cheating but something we thought together we could work through by talking it out he tells me he still loves me but won't say it to me anymore like he used to he says he does not feel the same love he did a few months ago but he felt he could work on it then tells me we should not see eachother untill this is resolved well how do you resolve it with out seeing eachother and talking face to face??? He only want to talk to me every night over the phone. See he thought I was looking for someone else and I wasn't I know you guys think I am lying but I am not I love him to much to do that he is just to jealous over everything I do I can't even go out to the bar with my girlfriends cause he thinks I might stray cause going to bars does put you in that situation if you wanted to. So I never have gone since we started dating a year ago. He even goes as far as to check my cell bill about numbers and I call them on speaker phone just so he can see who.
2006-07-18 07:07:38 · 14 answers · asked by yellowrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well girl, you have your life.
dont have to ask yourself why he does so many things.
dont be angry...
stand for yourself and try to understand what he thinks by asking him. if you're confused, tell him that he confuses you. he should let you understand what he wants with his on going actions. ad you should tell him how uncomfortable you feel.
=) good luck.
2006-07-18 07:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rowdyruff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this advise to heart as I have seen it TOO many times with friends and cousins: He is a control freak. He also wants to give himself the advantage of the situation, and it sounds as if he is gearing up for either major control or he has found someone else who is more easily handled. You think that the cell phone bill thing and the other kinds of checking up is bad now - just wait, it will get much worse if you do end up together. Run, don't walk, away from this relationship. It is not a healthy one. He is not the stable kind of guy that you will wish you had later. Best wishes in whatever you decide, but you really need to say "fine, it is over" as he is only going to get worse.
2006-07-18 14:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he sounds a bit paranoid. If he doesn't love you anymore like he use too, then he never will again..it won't ever be the same. You should have a boyfriend that trusts you, & doesn't constantly snoop around your stuff, that's just crazy. i'm not honestly sure why he doesn't want to see you, but you need to move on. You can't resolve problems like that over a phone, if he can't handle seeing you face to face, then is he really worth it? The relationship you once knew is gone, it's not ever coming back.
This isn't worth the time or energy. go out & have fun with your friends, & find a guy that won't try to keep you on a short leash, or any for that matter.
2006-07-18 14:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just a very controlling person and i dont think you need that in your life....even if u guys get back together...a person who is so insecure will always remain insecure...he has no right to go through your stuff if he cant trust u ....theres no point hanging on to him...cuz as time goes by you will only feel more and more suffocated by his actions....and have you ever wondered maybe its him who is upto something and thinks you would do it too.....just think about it no matter how strong your feelings are in the end it will only be a pain for you....trust is the main factor in a successful relationship...
2006-07-18 14:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET ABOUT HIM!!!gurl how can you be with someone that controlling once he starts checking your cell phone bill you know something must be up....he's too protective and thats not good for a blossoming relationship....he has some issues that he needs to work out with himself....and he needs to learn to trust you like you trust him....because thats what a good relationship is based on...and if he really wanted to work out the sitution then he'll probably ask you to go out with him so you can talk face to face...imagin spending one more year with him...it'll be a waste of time....if he doesn't trust you
2006-07-18 14:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by tampica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He is way too possessive. You need to straighten that **** out or dump him. That is just disrespectful.
2. Tell him you don't want to play these stupid games anymore and he needs to figure his **** out. If he wants to have a relationship, then he needs to get his *** back into it. If he doesn't want to have a real relationship, i.e. seeing each other and respecting each other and your privacy and trusting you, then he needs to hit the road.
3. Communicate. Your desires are important. If he doesn't want to try to meet your needs now, he never will.
2006-07-18 14:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him tell him that if he wantz to work thingz out that nowz the time to do it so he dosnt want to meet you in person then do it over the phone tell him that in a relation ship therez suppose to be trust and happieness. tell him that hes not helpin you by not tellin you why he lost hiz zeal or love he use 2 hav 2 me it soundz lik itz him not u
2006-07-18 14:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, he's already moved on and so should you , why dont you come to my house so me and my girlfriend can teach you a thing or three
2006-07-18 14:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by awsmgman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a control freak,,,maybe he doesen't trust you because hes the one whos creeping behind your back
2006-07-18 14:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is really saying is, "Babe, I need some space. We are crowding and smothering each other." Men say one thing but they don't seem to know how to say EXACTLY what they mean.
2006-07-18 14:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by cami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋