Boys- what do you recomend I should do?

Question

So thiers this kid i like, and i told him to his face (which was really hard) and i told him like the last week of school. besides that i wanted to get things going between the two of us. at first i thought i just liked him but then i felt as if it was mutal which was really great. So one day i told him we should meet up- so i called him and we were talking on the phone and he said he would call back he didnt so i called back and he had already had plans-i wasnt really upset i was like w.e cause it wasnt like planned and so on. but then i went away for 2 weeks and he was like lets do somthing but i have no idea like lunch sounds boring and i want to see him but i dont want to feel like im anoying him by asking to much to hang out i mean dont you think it is good that im asking and taking alot of the pressure off of him? i mean any suggestions or should i forget about it- honestly i like him alot and never go a day with out thinking about him were good friends but i want it to be more.

Answer 1

From a boy's / man's perspective, the harder a girl tries, the less we try. Don't play hard to get, but don't do all the work either, or he will walk the path of apathy until something better comes along. I suggest you pick three days (actually 1 day , and 2 evenings) that are good for you. Then tell him that next week, you would like to do something together. Tell him to let you know which day works best, and what he would like to plan for it. By doing so, you've eliminated the possibility of him actually being busy at a certain time. You've shown interest as well, but given him the reins to direct the date, and made it flexible enough to fit into his life (until you are better aquainted and he'll start making your time a priority). If he can't make any of those times, then move on, as he is simply afraid of rejecting you actively (but will continue to do so passively - which hurts). If he picks a time, then his interest is genuine. If he makes the plans, he'll feel in control (a big part of the male ego) and not pressured by you. If he's indecisive, then he's either telling you he wants to know more about your likes and dislikes, or he's a social shut-in. Talk to him and learn what each of you like. If he's a shut-in, then avoid the baggage that's bound to be attached. It may sound cliche, but try a dinner and a movie. Do it early so he can't complain about being late, and pick something not too expensive and mainstream. The point is to get some alone time with him where he is comfortable enough to relax and start talking. Once he starts to open up, you'll learn enough about where you can go with this relationship. Communication is your objective. If he's holding back, then you do the same; don't chase him like a puppy dog. Guys usually avoid this, and he will not think of the relationship as "long term".

Answer 2

You said you were away 2 weeks and upon your returning he asked you to do something, so what is the problem? You said you have no idea like lunch sounds boring. If he asked you to do something let him make the suggestion as to what to do since he is asking you and you have no idea. Talk to him and find out his interests are and find something you are both interested in. The best way to get to know someone is by spending time talking with them.. Call him on the phone. E-mail him things you find interesting or that he is interested in.

As long as it is mutual there is nothing wrong with you asking him to do things. I would only be concerned if he always makes excuses why he can't or never asks you in return.

In order to have a fulfilling relationship, you need to be friends first..the other will come naturally if it is mutual.

Any lasting relationship takes time to develop.Be patient.

Answer 3

First of all like if you learn proper grammar, and get your own hair, then maybe this young man will take a real interest in you.
If you act, and speak the same way you write you can be assured of a life of rejection, except maybe from the fellows looking for a booty call...
P.S. Good Luck in your endeavor!

Answer 4

ok you like him and you told him, but how did he react when you told him.. did he tell you ha likes you 2? ok if he did maybe your getting somewhere but if he is kinda putting you off and not hanging out andhe is not actuallyasking you out and not accepting your invitations then i know you dont want to hear this maybe he doesn't wanna hurt your feelings so maybe that is why he isn't accepting you invitations maybe he sees you as a good friend.. ask him that is my advice. good luck

Answer 5

Forget about him, it's a jerk. You look hot, take some vacations, come to Toronto, Canada to meet some cool guys

Answer 6

Whatever you do PLEASE don't say the word 'like' in every other sentence. It was already annoying enough trying to read your question.

Try mini golf or something in that area. Outside and keeping both of you busy. I would hate to carry on a conversation with you.

Answer 7

I think u should stick 2 staying friends, if he wants it 2 be more then let him make the1st move, if I was this guy I would think that ur annoying as hell

Answer 8

Not sure how old you are, but if you are old enough have him go to the club with you. If you aren't old enough for that, go do something fun with him. Show him how you like to have a good time, and you can make him laugh. Take him to go ride go karts, or play putt putt, or something like that. Us guys like to be with women who are fun, and make us laugh.

Answer 9

well lets see if the dude isn't asking you out or anything, then maybe he's just to much of a wuss and do you really wanna go out with a wuss.... anyway, if you don't think he's a wuss then ask him to lunch but if he bails again, then he's just not that into you

Answer 10

1. Learn to spell
2. Worry with your career.
3. Be rich and don't worry with punks