what is really causing my inner rage?

Question

this is one of the factors that cause me to become so angry when i go out, ive had this problem since 16 im 29 now, im very lonley and solitary and find it hard to make friends. when i go out also just seeing people who look happy or contented with their lives or seeing attractive women begins to build this rage up inside of me to boiling point where i feel im goin to lose control. i dont want this to continue, i wanna feel control of my life not out of control, iam controling myself so far but somedays i feel really close to the edge, has anyone got any suggestions of what i can do to pursue help, ive changed my psychiatrist im waiting to see my new one. ive also changed my cpn, the medication im on is , tegretol, sertraline, and half inderal but it doesnt seem to be helping, ive asked for psychology, i dont no what else to do?

i have confused racing thoughts constantly

Answer 1

Until you can accept the fact that; forgiveness is the cure for your rage, your are doomed to repeat your erroneous thinking and behavior.

Answer 2

I wish I could help you, because I experience similar feelings quite often and I am sorry you are going through this. I do not know you , and all I can talk about is my own perspective on this, and what causes my rage, but I dont know of how much use or help this will be to you. With me, rage comes from my perceived lack of control, I feel very much powerless and at the mercy of the environment around me. In other words, there are too many conditions that I need to be met in order for me to be at ease and happy, and 99 % of the time, these conditions are not met by the people around me and the environment around me. Naturally, I feel like I am missing out on life and i feel that I am not showing the world my full potential, because i am too occupied with trying to control factors and people, so that at least I have peace and quiet. however this leaves me exhausted and with no desire to achieve much. When I see happy people, it makes me wonder, "are they better people than me, do they deserve happiness more than me, are they, perhaps, beter suited for life than me, and if they are, why was I born weaker" This makes me feel a lot of rage. Do you notice any parallels between what I wrote here and what you feel.? Perhaps you feel powerless and weak over your life as well, and this is why you resent other people s happiness. i am no doctor or psychologist so I am not sure whether what yoy are taking is right for you, But I would suggest spending more time outside, if people bother you, ,just take a walk,spend time with nature, or read a good book. Or find people who you can relate to , who have similar feelings as you. I m sure there are plenty.Hope this helps!

Answer 3

You went about it all wrong before. It's not a psychological disorder as it was an imbalanced personality. You were a bit jaded from being so quiet and introverted. You felt by yourself, alone. Always a lone wolf and you're weren't happy that way. You're not mentally ill. You Can Make Friends. It's easy, You'll learn quickly. You start out by saying hi to random people. It'll be outside your comfort zone at first, but you'll get used to it. after that, it's simply accepting certain things about people and keeping the situations positive. Always keep the situations positive initially. After they know you well, then all the other aspects of your life come later. To keep friends you simply keep situations positive. Say what you feel to them and be honest; if they feel like they're hanging out with Eeyore, they're not going to enjoy being around you. As far as being with a woman, This will come after friends. If you want to keep a female you have to make her feel a certain way. You can't care about her more than yourself. Ever. Be sure this wont happen. After you get married then you'll be able to change this. Otherwise They smell this and run. you can't need them. They're simply something there to accent your life. They're not the reason for it. When you're comfortable with yourself and not needy of them, you'll be ready to interact with them in a more intimate level. Always keep thoughts of yourself first, then think about keeping her happy, second. Most nice guys have this backwards. They end up in worse situations than you. That's not happening to you. You know better. Look into her like she's intriguing. If her accomplishments impress you, look at her that way. Ask her about herself. Keep a gameshow host mentality. That way you'll always have a good grasp and control over the situation. She's not the point of the game, simply a contestant. So her importance wont be over estimated. If she's not for you, NEXT. you don't have to waste time. People aren't more important than you. It is the opposite. You're more important than everyone. If you don't believe this, who else will? Focus on taking good care of yourself. Shower well, Brush teeth, Comb hair as best you can and go to a good barber, Shouldn't be more than 20 dollars to get a good haircut. Take a female friend with you to a mall to help you find a good style that fits your look. Then afterwards you guys can try on jackets and sunglasses together and goof off at the foodcourt. Look into deep breathing exercises, It'll be a quick fix on the anger. Act more positive, use that energy as motivation for being more friendly and bettering yourself. When you are truly friendly and nice to people, you'll make more friends and gradually you'll have a normal life again, nothing will make you angry, you have everything you wanted now. This Only gets better when you use your energy to better yourself, focusing on doing whatever it takes to attain what you want. Which isn't that difficult. You'll be happy.

Answer 4

Something traumatic happened to you that your mind has blocked you from remembering. You won't remember what it was until it is safe for you to remember it. I never remembered that my stepfather molested me from early childhood until he died when I was 33. Your mind is protecting you from too much of the "unthinkable". This whole set of symptoms is called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. You have to have a counselor who is specifically trained to help you deal with this emotional trauma. Most psychiatrists are not trained this way. I started in an AMAC (Adults Molested As Children) group, and it took about 2 years to get myself through it. I paid on a sliding scale and it was well worth both the time and the money I spent to finally have the freedom to grow past what happened to me.