Does anyone know of any affirmations to help with letting go?

Question

I have so much anger, fear, etc from my past relationships that I think it's ruining my current one, anyone have any ideas to help me let go of things and try to be more positive?

Answer 1

Boy, do I hear you about that one. Therapy might be a good start...a paid "friend" to whom you can rant. Find one who specializes in Rational Emotive Therapy. It helps you deal with negative thoughts and feelings as they happen.

Another good thing to try is hypnosis, if therapy doesn't get to it.

And sadly...we live in a world where it is increasingly harder to trust anyone. Employers, governments and lovers often use and dismiss people without a single moment of remorse. You might have to accept that you are cynical and distrusful for a very good reason and that it will protect you until there is a shift back towards human kindness in the world. It may be a long wait.

Best of luck to you. Don't give up. And when all else fails, meditate or pray for guidance and peace in your own life.

My favorite quote these days is from Nietzsche: "That which does not kill [me] makes me stronger."

Answer 2

I was taught to change the words to a positive, write them down and read them each day.

If those steps seem too difficult, put them into simpler steps and build up to a bigger step.

For instance for fear
1 am afraid = I am able to conquer fear
1 am strong
1 am calm in that situation

For anger against that person
1 can't forgive that person change to
I have stopped being angry
1 will stop hating that person
Those issues in my past are in my past
I am at peace
I can forgive myself
I can forgive that person

You get the idea, decide the steps involved in stopping the hate and anger, break it down into manageable chunks, then work on one internalization for a week, then move to a progressive issue.

Eventually, because you really do want to get rid of this anger, fear, etc, it will become easier and you will be able to put it in the past.

I know how difficult this was for me, so I know it can eat away at you. Just take it one step at a time, eventually you will be able to let go.

Also, for many years, I had to continually pray for forgiveness towards that person. It was difficult and it took a long time. But I look back at it now and realize that I have been able to forgive that person.

Answer 3

We can learn from our past experiences. They set out warnings, so that we won't be fooled, again, by the same kind of persons.

Do you tend to pick the same kind of person, or have you become more wise and discerning?

Do not let the memories of the past ruin the beauty of the present. You cannot change the past, but you can certainly improve today by a more positive attitude.

If you hang on to the past, you'll dig a hole and bury yourself. Also, it's not fair to saddle new people with the characteristics of people of the past.

Let it go. Live for now. Look for good things everyday. Change you focus. Fill your mind with good experiences, nice people, and the beauty of this world.

You might want to see a counselor. A counselor will teach you how to get rid of past memories and build on new ones.

Answer 4

We all live by the choices we make. Just remember that the chooser is in control till he makes the choice; then the choice controls the chooser.

Choose to let go of anger, fear etc and you will see the outcome changes how you react to your past. YOU will then be in control.

Answer 5

unfortunately you have current relationship before letting go of past but since you do, pray first thing every morning. Go to god with your care for He cares for you 1 Peter 5:7

Answer 6

"I am an independent person, who does not need ___ in my life. I am successful and happy with myself. I am kind to others and have a positive outlook."

Good luck! Remember, belief creates reality.

Answer 7

THE SERENITY PRAYER. GIVE YOUR LIFE UP TO GOD FOR HIM TO RUN. YOU WILL FINALLY FEEL PEACE!! BEEN THERE DONE THAT...BEEN THERE DONE IT, AGAIN. Then I let go and let God. Honey it's hard, but stay strong...you'll come through shining like gold.