After 2 years of being together and a child, my bf and I wed last Saturady.It was a spur of the moment,small gathering at home type of wedding,was lovely but NO honeymoon. Im upset because besides the fact we couldnt go away because he couldnt take off from work to go somewhere,we didnt have any sex, he acted like if it was any other day,,Its tuesday and still nothing. Im so mad, because even though weve live together,to me its symbolic to have a have a honeymoon.My bf has gotten lazy in that department but my question is..was that a lack of consideration on his part being such a special day ?? should have we had a traditional night of passion or because we live together does that exclude us??
2006-07-18 06:40:09 · 7 answers · asked by First L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hubby and I were together 5 years with 2 kids before wedding, and even though we didn't have any money, we took that night to ourselves in a nice hotel on the shore. On our one year anniversary, we took our honeymoon.
He should have made it more special for the two of you. Also, did you depend on him to make any arrangements? Even if he wouldn't take time off from work, you should have had at least one night of passion. Living together beforehand should NOT exclude you from it. Not sure what was really going through his head. Maybe he already considered you married, and the wedding didn't have as much symbolism as it does for you.
2006-07-18 06:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by MOMof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it's really sweet & romantic to think that a night of unending sex is what follows the wedding, in real life a lot of the time, the bride & groom are so wiped out by the day's events they usually just fall asleep on their wedding night!
Sadly, if your boyfriend married you on the spur of the moment after so much time together & a kid, chances are the romantic spark has dwindled, and he probably didn't think much about your "wedding night" being any big deal ... although obviously to you it was.
I suggest you guys try to sit down and talk this out. You can plan a trip away for a weekend or whatever to a B&B, so that neither has to take time off. Leave the baby with friends or family & just have some together time. Call it a honeymoon if you want!
FYI, my husband & I were married 2 & 1/2 years before we had our honeymoon! Just never had the time or the money to do it right.
2006-07-18 13:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is as stressed as you, maybe more! He may be thinking you are not the considerate either. Try making a very special night. It would be goo dfor both of you! Maybe you can afford a hotel room for one night, maybe at a pretty nice place w/ a Jaccuizzi tub.
Make a 1 day long and 1 week late honeymoon. Take half of Friday off work. Go set up the room, bring candles, throw a scarf over the light, spread flower petals on the bed, chill some wine, get some nice appitizers to eat and then some special treats to share. Get some sexy night cloths and some sexy underwear.
Make up some excuse to get him over there. Maybe a friend was driving through and her car broke down, so your going over to check on her.
When you get him there, push him in, smile in your most devious way and say something like "Now your mine, tonight is ours, and I love you!" Then turn on the radio and do a sexy strip tease...
Now if he does not respond to that you'll have to make sure he wasn't replaced with an alien before your wedding...
Good luck.
2006-07-18 14:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by heather k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has a medical problem, you should be able to have a night of passion with him at home any time he's there. Put on your hottest bedroom outfit or just your birthday suit and get to it.
As for the honeymoon, tell him you'd like to take a cruise together and get your mother to watch your child. The cruise ship people will treat you the same as if you got married the day before. Our Christmas honeymoon trip was four months after our Labor Day weekend wedding because of scheduling logistics too complicated to go into here (school, work, family travel), and we had a wonderful time.
2006-07-18 13:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a jerk to me. But you obviously love him otherwise you wouldn't have married him. I don't think I get a honeymoon either, i do get a honeymoon suite at a local hotel the night of the wedding...guys are always unthoughtful
2006-07-18 14:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you guys just got married then he is your HUSBAND. Not your boyfriend anymore. There is a difference if you are truely married. As for the honeymoon. It all depends on the couple and what they want to do. Honeymoons are not a requirement!
2006-07-18 14:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things would have been totally different on your wedding night, if you would have saved yourself for that night.
2006-07-19 09:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋