i want another baby my daughter is 9 months and i want a little boy or just another baby but my fiance doesnt want anymore kids what can i do to change his mind he has two other kids but there in foster homes
2006-07-18 06:39:41 · 14 answers · asked by shyshy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he was in a bad relationship when he was younger he is 32 i am 20 he hasnt had his kids for 5 years we only been together for 2 years so he growed up alot
2006-07-18 14:21:42 · update #1
hi ex girlset him up b/c she didnt want them so she didnt want him to have them either she was jelous of the kids when it came to him she wanted him to her self not being shared with them
2006-07-18 14:23:30 · update #2
You just had a baby, you should wait to have another one. What's the hurry? Plus, what's up with his kids being in foster homes? What did he do?
2006-07-18 06:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? He isn't a father to the other two and chances are good that he will not be a father to the one you have now for very long! Does anybody out there put any value on marriage before starting a family? If you want to raise two kids alone and ruin all your lives go right ahead. Hope you have some kind of great income cause you'll need it with that mentality.
2006-07-18 13:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are his other two kids in foster care and not with him? Someone must have thought he couldnt take care of them in the first place. Now you've had one by him and want another? I'd think carefully about having another. Think of your children first. What kind of life can you give them alone? You are a good example of why you should have babies with husbands NOT boyfriends. Most important of all, if he has kids already and they are in FOSTER CARE, he obviously is not in a position to care for them. What makes you think he is going to care for yours?
2006-07-18 13:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by laurap931 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he dosn't want other kids because the two he has are in foster homes, maybe he feels regretfull!!! Try showing him how much you want another, or go and get thse kids outa foster care and bring em back to live with you. If your desperate stop takin the birth control (just dont tell him) or use a pin and poke holes in the condomes!!!
2006-07-18 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Paul O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have left out some very important information, I figure that your boyfriend with 2 kids in foster homes already is absolutely correct about not wanting to be responsible for another helpless human.
2006-07-18 13:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Heckel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has two kids who are in foster care, he is not father material. Do not have another child with this man, and reconsider marrying him, since you already have a child. If he was a good father, the other two would not be in foster homes.
2006-07-18 13:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want more children with a man who isn't taking care of the children he has? Children aren't puppies. They need consistent care for the next 18 years. They need love and a strong family to support them. You will be left to raise your daughter. Do you really want another child that will be dependent on you alone? Can you care for two children alone?
2006-07-18 13:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he doesnt want any other kids becuase he fells like he is haveing kids while two sits in foster care. he know what he is doing. so dont bother him about it. you might drive him away plus guys like to make babies but not have to take care of kids and you shouldnt you should wait until the time is rite and when he wants to and if you still want to becuase your relashionship might get rocky with two kids and he doesnt want to be at home with alot of kids.
2006-07-18 14:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by girl19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm it takes 2 respect his choice. He has children that he cant even take car of that are in foster care and YOU want more.... You should give your body at least 2 years so you have time be patient and by then who knows... He needs time and give him that much.
2006-07-18 13:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kay O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those questions should be answered between the two of you before you ever get married or try to have a child again. his previous record says he doesn't want to be a dad, and you should be raising children with a strong male role model who can love them, encourage them and support them as they grow.
and you need someone who will follow a similar life path as you, so that two can grow in love together and become one. forcing it, usually ends poorly.
2006-07-18 13:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by lannon_fiegel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋