Am I a bad mother?

Question

I have 3 kids, but i find it hard trying to entertain them. I have my own problems to deal with and sometimes find it hard to enjoy their company. If I do things with the kids like days out I only last 2 hours b4 I get fed up unless Im getting something from the day out too.

Answer 1

the fact that you are questioning whether or not you are a bad mother shows that you are a good mother- bad mothers wouldn't care, and you obviously have their best interests at heart

Answer 2

I find as a mom, you never get to be selfish anymore. and I have days where i wish i could go back for a WEEK and enjoy the freedoms i once had. And on a bad day, or bad week, i do actually resent my kids fro taking away my freedom. I think it is a natural feeling. You need to find a way, to get a couple hours to yourself. I have a sitter 2 times a week, and some evenings i get a sitter fopr an hour so i can go to the gym, or coffee. It has made me a better mother. Anyone who answers this question negatively, make sure they have kids before you take too much to heart. Cause only other moms know exactly what your feeling. Being a mom is hard work. It is selfless, and some days unrewarding. give yourself a break ok!!!

Answer 3

That doesn't mean that u are a BAD mother, there are BAD mother's in this world who abandoned their kids, that abused them physically & emotional. It doesn't say if you are a single mother or not but it doesn't matter.. We as adults have lots of problems & it is not our kids fault.. What I recomend for you to do is not to release your stress on them, if you are not in the "mood" to play make an efford to be with them at least for a while or durring dinner time, talk about how was their day in school good things to talk as a family... Look I personally most of the times get tired and with too much stress from work, so what I do is give my kids I big smile & a hugh when I pick them up from daycare then I get home & take a bath that way I will relax a little then I try to spend at least 1 hour to play with them, then we have dinner & have a nice talk ... There is always good to leave your problems out side your house & try to enjoy more your kids because they grow up so fast... SO don't worry you are not a bad mom you just need to relax a little & have more fun with your kids I can imagine it is hard w/ 3 kids I have 2 & I'm expecting my 3rd but still, God give us mother's a special gift to support all the good & bad things & still love our kids....So GOOD LUCK !!! & enjoy more their company !!!! :)

Answer 4

Hey even 5 minutes for your kids is great. We all dont have time for 2 hours, but that 5 min can be the greatest to a kid. Try shorter activities. Like a short story,or coloring with them, or a quick game of simon says. Little things like that last a lifetime on their faces and you can see the joy it. Remember to take time for you so many of us dont do that then we dont enjoy life cause we get to tired. You are not a bad mother we can't entertain our kids 24/7.

Answer 5

I have three kids and I am expecting my forth in September, I think you spending 2 hours is great. I have a hard time finding extra 20 minutes to have "kid fun" and when I do I get frustrated quickly and am ready to go sit down and take a break. I love my kids and want to spending extra time with them but sometimes it sounded better thatn what it really was. Pace yourself and don't do too much to make you feel reqretful. Besides kids have no concept of time. It is actually better to have more frequent times with you that my not last as long as 2 hours at a time but try to divide it up and make it last all day.

Answer 6

I am a mom of 3.. it is so normal.. I take my kids every where you can think of.. but after a while I can't take anymore running around and jumping that all I want to do is go home and try to get some silence.
To make it more enjoyable you should go with friends with children.. that way you are able to have a little adult conversation with the activities. Or join a mommy group so that you can plan fun things to do with your kids with other moms.. the company makes all the children activities a little more fun.
You can find some playgroups in your area by going to www.meetup.com or check out mommy groups on yahoo.

Answer 7

You are not a bad mother. you are human. Kids are exhausting, especially three of them! As a parent, you are expected to always put your kids first, and never admit you have your own stuff going on in your life. It is so hard! Maybe you can invite a friend to do things with you and your kids. This might let you have some "me" time. Sometimes the things kids want to do are so tedious! We are expected to act like childhood is purely magical and we need to be constantly on the go. This just isn't a reality! Don't get down on yourself. Forgive yourself. You are a great mother!

Answer 8

Depending on how old they are...get them started a board game. Let them help you with dinner,shopping and definitely give them chores to do everyday. If they are old enough write a list for each of them. Find things to go do that are enjoyable for all, like packing a lunch and going to a park with some kind of playground. You're not a bad mother just letting your self get overwhelmed. Having 3 kids is hard work.

Answer 9

You are not
It can be really energy sapping
trying to keep 3 kids entertain

and from what u have said
you are really doing a good job.

Try taking the kids to a fun fair
or somewhere you can just sit down and watch them have fun
in the process you can rest and still enjoy seeing ur
kids have fun
and once in a while u can join them

All the best

Answer 10

Oh God - that's so completely normal.

Face it - we love our kids but they can be annoying little buggers most of the time. I also get fed up with mine on days out - but if I last two hours I'd consider that good.

The fact that you're even asking this question shows that it matters to you - and therefore you are a better and more caring mother than you think you are (plenty of others around who really couldn't care less).

Answer 11

I think its normal to feel like that. I have just suffered from post-natal depression. I couldn't stand the sight of my children for many days. I was tired all the time, i didn't speak to them i shouted at them. I certainly didn't enjoy their company. Luckily my husband has been fantastic and we are all back to normal now. You should enjoy the happy times you have with the children and not feel guilty when you have had enough - its better to have some quality fun times than none at all.