is it tacky to give thank you cards out at a reception instead of mialing them later??

Question

I heard of leaving a thank you card on the refreshment plate then it would save time and money by not having to mail thank you cards

Answer 1

I wouldn't call it tacky. Its everyone's own decision.

What I did was - I had a bag of buttermints that was placed in everyone's settings. Inside the bag was a thank you card from us with the candy that said, "thanks for sharing our special day" One month later, our pics came, and we sent out our official thank you cards with a pic of us.

Answer 2

Wedding Reception Thank You Cards

Answer 3

Go to the library or a bookstore and look up wedding etiquette and thank you cards. It is very, very tacky to have them on a plate for your guests to take and against proper etiquette. It shows that you don't appreciate their time in attending your wedding or the money they spent on your gift. Remember, gifts are optional, not required.

Thank You cards should be hand written on nice heavy paper or card stock. The message should include a personal statement about how you enjoyed seeing them at the wedding. Reference the gift they gave you and how you intend to use the gift. If the gift was money, don't mention the amount. Here are two examples:

Dear Aunt Sophie,
Bob and I were thrilled that you were share our special day with us. The towels you gave us will go perfectly in our guest bathroom! Thank you so much for your generosity.
Love,
Sue and Bob

If you received a monetary gift you could write:
Dear Aunt Sophie,
Bob and I enjoyed visiting with you at the wedding. Your gift was so generous. We plan on using it towards the purchase of a new television. Thank you so much for making our day special.
Love,
Sue and Bob

As a rule, thank you cards should be sent out no later than 2 weeks after receiving a gift. For gifts received at the wedding, you may take up to 2 months to send the card, but that's pushing it.

Answer 4

It's CHEAP-ZILLA! That is incredibly tacky. People will notice and talk about that for a long time - it will be the only thing they remember about your wedding. Spend the money on the postage - it won't kill you and your family will appreciate the common courtesy of receiving a thank you card by mail.

I can't believe you would even ask that - what a cheap bride you are! What are you wearing for a dress - a piece of white cotton?? If you can spend money on YOURSELF - and it's NOT all about YOU - you should be able to extend yourself a little and be grateful for your family and friends in celebrating your day.

Wow. That is like an all-time low.

Answer 5

Yes, it's a way of saying, "I don't appreciate the time, money and trouble you put into selecting my gift, so I'll just give you a blanket 'thanks' that doesn't mean anything."

That's another reason why gifts should be sent to the bride BEFORE the reception - so she can open them and get started on her hand-written individual thank-you notes early. Tacky people bring gifts to the reception.

If you can't afford 39 cents to mail thank-you notes, perhaps you shouldn't be having a reception. Any other reason for not doing them smacks of tackiness and ingratitude.

Answer 6

yeppers, it's very tacky don’t do it. If you’re worried about the cost of thank-you cards, look for buying in bulk. I got 600 cards, for about $40. The cards just have the standard script “Thank you” on the front, but the handwritten thank you inside is what counts. A must do!

Answer 7

That is tacky. You give all of your guests wedding favors, which is a way of thanking them for coming to the wedding. But, you can't hand out actual thank you cards, because you have no idea what each guest gave you for a gift. Thank you cards are supposed to be perosonal for each guest.

Answer 8

Tacky! Unless you will be sending out a second set of Thank You's. Thank You's are supposed to be personal and mean something, not just a formality.

Answer 9

But, if you mail out cards it's more personal. If you're trying to save money, then make sure your party favor includes the thank you card. I have yet to go to a wedding where they hand out thank you cards. I would ask Miss Manners if that's proper etiquette.

Answer 10

Your suppose to give a favor or leave a thank-you card for coming on the plate for the receiption. You then later have to mail a card- thanking for the gift that they gave you. Your suppose to write the thank-you that goes with the gift- like thank-you for the blender it's just what we need to complete our kitchen. Or for money- Thank-you for the money, we will be using it to help us pay for ________. So you actually have to thank them twice- 1 for coming and 2. for the gift. If you are giving favors the favors ususally say that on them somewhere "thanks for joining us- the couples name and wedding date".

Answer 11

It is very tacky. The point of a thank you note is to personally thank each person for attending your wedding, and to mention the specific gift they gave (if any). People don't mind waiting to get a thank you note if it means it will be personalized.