my five month old is attached to me. i cant even leave the room and she stsarts screaming. i dont hold her all the time. were did i go wrong. is this just a phase? her daddy cant even talk to her or anything and she starts crying. hes not mean or hateful to her. whats going on?
2006-07-18 06:16:13 · 7 answers · asked by shlee8516 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's too attached to you. leave her alone for an hour or so. if it gets worse...go to the doctor.
2006-07-18 06:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jade A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was very attached to me from birth. She still is. I think it is just the way the DNA lined up. Luck of the draw. There was nothing I, nor her father did, it was her personality. The fact that her dad worked long hours that kept him away for long periods didn't help. She didn't have a chance to really "bond" with him.
I was the same way as a baby. All babies are different.
There may be a lot of reasons for this. She may be jealous of his interaction with you and fear that he will "take you away from her." Not in the sense that you will be gone, but in the sense that you will not be "available" to her every need. Some are just born this way. Whatever the reason, it needs to be handled delicately and with the utmost respect for her.
Find ways to do things as a family. Show your daughter how much you trust her father. Make sure you are backing it up not just with words, but with your actions. Include him in all daily activities. Have him sit and play with you and the baby. Have him not directly address your daughter. It's called "parallel play." He should play or participate next to the two of you, but without direct interaction with the two of you. He should allow her to take the lead in all aspects of interaction. It will take some time, but before you know it, she will be crying when daddy leaves the room.
You should bring this up at your next doctor visit. There may be other things the doc can suggest.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 13:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by askme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called separation anxiety, and yes this is a bit early for it, may be she will turn out to be an intelligent girl.
If she cries alot around her dad, check if he smokes, uses powerful scents or has a loud voice,a beard, rough clothes all these things can annoy a 5 months old baby. However you have to persist for them to have a healthy father daughter relationship.
A good start would be for him to offer her small toys, then go from there.
2006-07-18 13:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Hanan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going through a phase where she needs mommy more. Let her dad have a little time with her maybe take her for a walk or he can play with her by himself. Maybe he can bring her a treat one day when he comes home.
2006-07-18 13:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with every one of them.....Well leave her alone for awhile and let him have her for a day without you around.....Or just let them get attached their own way or go somewhere and talk about it
2006-07-18 13:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something must have happened. It wasn't necessarily intentional, but the father did something to break the trust. You need to find out what.
2006-07-18 13:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a moustache, i used to be afriad of my dad's moustache
2006-07-18 13:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋