The other day, I stumbled upon my cousin's myspace profile and lo and behold, I found a good amount of evidence to prove that she may be gay. We've been close to eachother since we were little and I never saw this coming. Well, ever since I discovered this, I haven't been talking to her because it feels really awkward. I don't have a problem with gay people, but I can't help feeling really uncomfortable around her. What should I do?
2006-07-18 06:10:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course i'm going to talk to her about it! How could I not talk to her and just make assumptions that may possibly not be true? Guys, don't be so hard on me, okay? I just found out and i'm a little shocked right now.
2006-07-18 06:29:15 · update #1
When you feel compfortable enough, just ask her...Its an akward feeling, i can agree...when i found out my cousin was gay, i didnt want her to touch my face or kiss my son on his face...I just thought she was yucky all the way around
2006-07-18 06:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Simple1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. When I found out my sister was gay, I was really confused. I had friends that were gay and never thought that I had a problem with them. But when she said that she was a lesbian, I felt uncomfortable around her. So I started to wonder, was a really against homosexuality? Well, two years later, I can tell you that I am not. My sister now believes she is bisexual. I shared a room with her through this so I'm sure you can imagine how awkward it was.
If I were in your shoes, I would talk to her. It may be a joke. I have friends that we joke around with and say that we are gay together. Some people put orientation as lesbian on myspace so that weird guys do not email them. The fact is, you don't know. It may be a misunderstanding.
However, if you talk to her and she tells you, yes she gay, what can you do? Well, to be honest, nothing. So why fight it? Why be against it when there is nothing you can do to control it? She is still your cusin and you should support her no matter what. You still love her even though you may not approve of what she is doing. In the end, you want what is going to make her happy. If being gay makes her happy, why not? Be there for her and help her come out to your family. It is something that needs to happen.
2006-07-18 06:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Modern_Monroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you treat her any differently? She is going to know something is wrong if you are acting weird...what are you going to tell her when she asks why you are acting that way? If you don't have a problem with gay people, then you shouldn't be uncomfortable around your cousin if she is gay. It's not like she is going to hit on you or anything, she's your cousin!
2006-07-18 06:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what is ironic here. She is the same person she was before you found out about her being gay, you are the one who has changed. She may very well be posting right now asking, Why has my cousin stopped talking to me, I did not do anything to her?
2006-07-18 06:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question if you don't have a problem with gay people? She was your cousin before - she's still the same person.
If you feel uncomfortable around her it's your problem. She was born this way - let her live her life and be happy.
2006-07-18 06:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by whimsy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to feel akward about. What she does behind closed doors is none of your business anyway. If your suppose to be really close she could probley really use your help right now. Believe me she is probley alot more confused then you are. Just tell her that it makes you feel a little akward but you love her anyway and want to be there for her.
2006-07-18 06:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i found out that one of my really good friends was gay it shocked the hell out of me. but i told him that i'll still treat him the same and not to take offense when i say something like "oh that's gay" or "what a fag." and he doesn't, he's pretty cool about it when i slip and say something around him. and i still have him come spend the night with me (he's a lot younger and im in college) but nothing has changed and we're still really good friends. so approach her and let her know that you don't look at her any different
2006-07-18 06:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that uncomfortable then I think you do have a problem being around gay people. Sorry, but it's true.....And she's still the same person she was she just has different sexual preferences than you do.
2006-07-18 06:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she has ever thought of being with another women and see what her response is. If she can't anwser then she probably is just try to tell her to just be honest with you. Cause she could have the hot's for you so this is something you need to be clear on cause you are cute
2006-07-18 06:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't have a problem with gay people as long as it doesn't affect me" That sounds like what you are saying. your cousin is the same person you grew up with, the only thing that has changed is your perception of her. Shame on you. IF you loose your cousin over this, guess what? "It will be your loss"
2006-07-18 06:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋