What if he comes back and I hurt this new guy? I don't want to intentionally hurt anyone, but I feel like I have to do something to get on with my life. Any suggestions?
2006-07-18 06:06:18 · 7 answers · asked by Alida2u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talking to someone is harmless. If you think you're attracted to the guy and think it will lead to sex, I think it will be too soon. If you're looking for emotional comfort and empathy, turn to a girlfriend who you really trust and who's been there. Otherwise, will both have different intentions for seeking physical gratification. As for your ex, if he chose to leave, shut the door and lock it. Don't let him into your life again, unless there's a revolving door to your heart. Assess where your feelings are at this point, and as hard as it sounds, allow yourself to feel the pain, but go through it without another guy around. Do things that made you feel good when you were a kid. Go to an amusement park, the beach, have ice cream for breakfast, watch old cartoons, shop, have a slumber party, make an appointment with your hair stylist, etc. You get the idea. Be good to yourself and make yourself happy first. Your next boyfriend or fiance will be so glad to find you so high on life! Bonne chance!! :)
2006-07-18 06:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jonelle C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to print that "Best Answer" I gave you earlier and paste it where you'll see it frequently (maybe several copies spread around the home).
If 'loverboy' comes back (for the 16th time) you'd be wiser to refuse to let him in, considering he'll probably go back to his wife again.
There's nothing wrong in talking to others, and there should be no rush for a committed relationship at this point. Take your time getting to know people and see what develops. The right person isn't going to run away just because you take things slowly, and will understand you better than you expect.
As for the previous guy, he has no claim over you that you don't give him. Being with someone might seem better than being alone. But being with someone kind of shuts the door on all those new people who are going to treat you better than he did/does.
Try starting by writing on paper all the qualities you want in your special someone. Prioritize those qualities so you know what you must have and what is dispensable. Look around for a way to get noticed by single people. Give yourself permission to be single and look for that special someone rather than trying to breathe life into something that isn't going anywhere. Place a few well-worded ads for that special someone.
More (and better) choices should make it a lot easier to say "no" to those who don't treat you well.
You can do it, Alida. You just have to believe Fate has something better in store for you than a jerk who keeps changing his mind.
2006-07-18 20:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by bobkgin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all I heard that you said that he left you!
Well isn't that a sign to you. To leave him too. If he gives you the cold shoulder and turns away then you give him the cold shoulder and you turn away. Cause obviously he is not ready to commit to you in a realtionship and obviously you are. So how does that work. either one person has to be the one who will wait for a long time. Or go on with your life.
If you want to go on with your life. then by all means DO IT! Don't let him destroy this fun time in your life of exploring the sea of guys!
Don't waste your time on a guy that always wants to run to the exit!
Talk with this new guy and get to know him more. and let this other dude go. Don't keep on holding unto him if he want's to leave. Ok......
Get on with your life girl.. You deserve better!
2006-07-18 13:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your previous questions it seems as if you are talking about the 'married man' again. Can't you just leave him and his poor wife alone? I don't know either one of you personally, but you are sabotaging whatever opportunities he and his wife have at making things work between. What's wrong with you? Can;t you find another man? You children certainly don't need to be drug into this mess. It seems to me like you need a reality check.
2006-07-19 16:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you still hung up on your ex-boyfriend? like if he came back to you would you take him back? if so, then it is probably a bad idea to get involved with someone else so quickly. if you do, you should let him know the situation right away. tell him you just got out of a relationship and aren't ready for anything serious.
2006-07-18 13:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Niecy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and start over. If he comes back show him the exit door and tell him it only swings out ... see ya!
2006-07-18 20:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by jenny2tone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he comes back doesn't mean you have to accept him back....
2006-07-18 13:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋