How to be a Successful Husband???

Answer 1

Love her completely, and her love will complete you.

Answer 2

Oh my God, sweet poetic is a little over the top...the ONLY way to be a successful husband is to have a wife with the same goals, aspirations and morals are you do, and that's assuming yours are honest and decent.

Then it boils down to trust, respect, communication and putting your spouse as the most important person in your life. I said "person" because God should come first, then your wife, then your children, in THAT order. After all, she married YOU, not the children. Attend church together.

You will both make mistakes. You both need to agree to be able to discuss them rationally without hurting each other and working through them together.

Give each other space and reasonable privacy when needed. Allow for "cooling off" periods when things are stressfull, no good decisions are made in the heat of passion or anger. Speak to each other the way you'd speak to your pastor, that means no shouting or disrepectful language.

Spend money wisely and consult your spouse before making ANY significant purchase. Put household items and living expenses FIRST before spending on luxuries or "toys" Do not get caught up in credit spending.

If you can manage these things AND you get them in return, you will have a great chance on being a successfull husband. Remember, however, it's a TWO-person job to have a successful marriage.

And the last thing I'm going to say will most likely anger the women, but I still believe it. YOU as the man, are the head of the household. That means ultimately, the decisions are to be made by you. You can decide to permit your spouse to take on the responsibility if you choose, it's up to you. There is no 50/50 in a successful marriage. Just like there's a single CEO is every successful business, so too is there a single head of the family and it's the man.

This does NOT mean you make decisions without considering your spouse's opinion, nor do you make decisions that are selfish. You are to make the decisions in the BEST interest of the family....and you'd better be right, because if you aren't, the blame also belongs to you.

Answer 3

Don't cheat on her, hit her, cuss her, or run around with your friends and leave her at home. Remember to bring her flowers, draw her a bubble bath, and give her massages once in awhile. tell her everyday she is beautifull and appreciated. My husband does all these things and I am still madly in love with him after 10 years! If your interested enough to ask how to be a successful husband, your already on the right track. Just love her!

Answer 4

Learn how to "really" listen to your spouse. Something that may seem small and trivial to you might mean a big deal to her. Help out with the housework without being asked to do it, especially when she's not home. I know it would make my day if just once I came home to find the apt cleaned or a load of laundry done (only do laundry if you know how, my husband once did it for me and ruined my best sweater by pouring bleach over everything.) If you cook, have dinner ready for her, or bring her breakfast in bed once in awhile.My husband used to do this for me now he takes everything I do for him for granted.

Answer 5

Use your five senses in proportion to their presence. Two eyes, two ears, one mouth, one nose, ten fingers, two arms.
Listen (don't just hear) to what she has to say. Observe what she does, pay attention to her. Don't be thinking of what you're going to say back until she has finished what she has to say. notice her perfume, her scent (It's a lonely woman who buys her own perfume) that makes her unique. Use your two hands and ten fingers and two arms to hold, caress, touch regularily. And never allow ten fingers to become two fists

Answer 6

First of all, get yourself a wife. You are successful already. The hard bits come later.................

Answer 7

Don't cheat, be honest, be forgiving, be patient and be giving.

Answer 8

Do not question her need to buy shoes or handbags.

Answer 9

HONOR YOUR WIFE. She must be exalted and never dethroned.

LOVE YOUR WIFE. The measure is, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.

SHOW YOUR LOVE. All life manifests itself. As certainly as a live tree will put forth leaves in the Spring, so certainly will R living love show itself. Many a noble man toils early and late to earn bread and position for his wife. He hesitates at no weariness for her sake. He justly thinks that such industry and providence gives a better expression of his love than he could give by caressing her and letting the grocery bills go unpaid. He fills his cellar and pantry. He drives and pushes his business. He never dreams that he is actually starving his wife to death. He may soon have a woman left to superintend his home, but his wife is dying. She must lie kept alive by the same process that called her into being. Recall and repeat the little attentions and delicate compli­ments that once made you so agreeable, and that fanned her love into a consuming flame. It is not beneath the dignity of a skillful physician to study all the little symptoms, and order all the little round of attentions, that check the waste of strength and brace the staggering constitution. It is good work for a husband to cherish his wife.

SUFFER FOR YOUR WIFE, IF NEED BE. Christ suffered for the Church.

CONSULT WITH HER. She is as apt to be right as you are, and frequently able to add much to your stock of wisdom. In any event she appreciates your attentions.

STUDY TO KEEP HER YOUNG. It can be done. It is not work, but worry, that wears. Keep a brave, true heart between her and all harm. If you will carefully walk in the way of righteousness you can shield her from cankering care. Providence will not be likely to bring upon her anything that is not for her good.

HELP TO BEAR HER BURDENS. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of love. Love seeks opportunities to do for the loved object. She has the constant care of your children. She is ordained by the Lord to stand guard over them. Not a disease can appear in the community without her taking the alarm. Not a disease can come over the threshold without her instantly springing into the mortal combat. If there is a deficiency anywhere, it comes out of her pleasure. Her burdens are everywhere. Look for them, that you may lighten them.

MAKE YOURSELF HELPFUL BY THOUGHTFULNESS. Remember to bring into the house your best smile and sunshine. It is good for you and cheers up the home. There is hardly a nook in the house that has not been carefully hunted through to drive out everything that might annoy you. The dinner which suits, or ought to suit you, has not come on the table of itself. It represents much thoughtfulness and work. You can do no more manly thing than find some way of expressing in word or look, your appreciation of it.

EXPRESS YOUR WILL, NOT BY COMMANDS, BUT BY SUGGESTIONS. It is God’s order that you should be the head of the family. You are clothed with authority. But this does not authorize you to he stern and harsh, as an officer in the army. Your authority is the dignity of love. When it is not clothed in love it ceases to have the substance of authority. A simple suggestion that embodies a wish, an opinion or an argument, becomes one who reigns over such a kingdom as yours.

STUDY YOUR OWN CHARACTER AS A HUSBAND. Transfer your deeds, with the impressions they might naturally make, to some other couple, and see what feelings they would awaken in your heart concerning that other man. Are you seeking to multiply the joys of your wife, as well as to support her? Are you an agreeable associate among your companions? If not, why should you expect your wife to be pleased with you? Have you acquired the ability to entertain and cheer your friends? If not, it is time you were studying to improve yourself as a husband. If you can, make yourself a model husband, and that will help your wife to be a model wife, and that will insure your home against shipwreck and your happiness against decay.

SEEK TO REFINE YOUR NATURE. It is no slander to say that many men have wives much more refined than themselves. This is natural in the inequalities of life. Other qualities may compensate for any defect here. But you need have no defect in refinement. Preserve the gentleness and refinement of your wife as a rich legacy for your children, and in so doing you will lift yourself to higher levels.

BE A GENTLEMAN AS WELL AS A HUSBAND. The signs and bronze and callouses of toil are no indication that you are not a gentleman. The soul of gentlemanliness is a kindly feeling toward others, that prompts one to secure their comfort. That is why the thoughtful peasant lover is always so gentlemanly, and in his love much above himself.

REMEMBER THE PAST EXPERIENCE OF YOUR WIFE. In all probability she has left a better home than the one to which she comes. All the changes for the worse are painful. Only her love for you extracts the pain. She cannot but contrast your pinched accommodations with the abundance she has left. It is right that these changes should come. Young people cannot commence where the aged leave off. Yet it becomes you to remember that she has taken you instead of all these comforts, and you must see to it that she has no reason to regret her exchange. Make the most of her better nature. This refinement enters into her value as a mother and a maker of a home.

LEVEL UP. If your wife has the advantage in culture and refinement, and this is quite a common condition, as girls usually have a better chance for education and more leisure for books than boys have, do not sink her to your level, but by study and thoughtfulness rise to her plane. The very ascent will improve your home, and add to your value as a husband and to your influence as a citizen.

STAY AT HOME. Habitual absence during the evenings is sure to bring sorrow. If your duty or business calls you, you have the promise that you will be kept in all your ways. But if you go out to mingle with other society, and leave your wife at home alone, or with the children or servants, you know that there is no good in store for you. She has claims upon you that you cannot afford to allow to go to protest. Reverse the case. You sit down alone after having waited all day for your wife’s return, and think of her as reveling in gay society, and see if you can keep out all doubts as to what takes her away. If your home is not as attractive as you want it, you are a principal partner. Set yourself about the work of making it attractive. Find some book to read or have your wife read to you, or some work that both can be interested in. Find something that shall give interest to the evenings. Home is your only retreat. Satan fights a family as Napoleon fought his enemies—divides it then whips the parts in detail. When you lounge away from home you go into temptation, and send temptation to take your place at home.

TAKE YOUR WIFE WITH YOU INTO SOCIETY. Seclusion begets morbidness. She needs some of the life that comes from contact with society. She must see how other people appear and act. It often requires an exertion for her to go out of her home, but it is good for her and for you. She will bring hack more sunshine. It is wise to rest sometimes. When the Arab stops for dinner he unpacks his camel. Treat your wife with as much consideration.

Blessed is every one that feareth the Lord; that walketh in His ways. For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands; happy shalt thou be, alit! It shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitfulvine by tile sides of thine house; thy children like olive plants round about thy table. Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord. (Psalms 128:1-4)



Not for the summer hours alone,
When skies resplendent shine,
And youth and pleasure fill the throne,
Our hearts and hands we join.
But for these stern and wintry days.
Of sorrow, pain and fear,
When Heaven’s wise discipline doth make
Our earthly journey drear.

Not for this span of life alone,
Which like a blast doth fly,
And as the transient flower of grass,
Just blossom—droop and die.
But for being without end,
This vow of love we take—
Grant us, O God! One home at last:
For our Redeemer’s sake