Some people are fun. Too much fun so they decide its a good idea to invite themselfes to come over to your house with other friends this Friday. What is the most appropriate to turn things around without being rude to the person ?
2006-07-18 06:01:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
don't let them party at your place. and if they don't listen the first time tell them NO again . be frim
2006-07-18 06:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by wolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the thing other people are doing is rude ... inviting themselves over for a party you aren't throwing ... then you don't have to worry so much about whether what you do to deflect them might be seen as rude. Just shake your head and say, "Sorry. No can do. There's no party at MY house Friday." And then move the conversation onto another topic.
2006-07-18 07:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either -
1) be out, or
2) when they arrive, say, "Sorry, I didn't know you were coming, I have made other plans" and don't let them in. It doesn't matter if your "other plans" are just watching TV.
However, it sounds like you already know about this plan, so I would suggest the best thing to do is to call the organizer, and tell them that "something has come up" and you [and your home]are unavailable Friday.
Only a truly rude person would ask, "Yeah, what came up?" or ask to reschedule. For a reschedule request, "I'll have to get back to you" is always a nice vague reply.
2006-07-18 06:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just ask if it would be ok to postpone the "party" because you had other plans in mind, and really didn't feel up to an impromptu party this friday. Tell him/her that you'd like to postpone the party and pick another day. This way you get control of the situation and don't hurt the guy/girl's feelings. They shouldn't object. Just be firm, thank them for considering you, but it's just not going to be a good time for you. They should understand.
Of course, if they are an idiot about it, they are worth dropping as a friend and tell them, "well, bug off, then."
2006-07-18 06:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learned the hard way. Don't tell them your plans. Be firm. Say NO, it won't work. OR they'll be back. Yes-they'll be offended-too bad-brought it on themselves. Yes, they'll talk about you to put themselves in a good light. Truth is-they're manipulators - let them go. Rude and weird too.
2016-03-11 08:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you have other plans, your house isn't clean, or you quite frankly don't feel like hosting a gathering right now. If they are your friends, they'll understand (of course, if they were your friends they would have asked rather than decided and invited themselves over).
2006-07-18 07:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you tell the invited friends that they aren't welcome, if they bring the uninvited people with them. Then you tell the uninvited people, that if they bring the invited people, they are no longer invited.
Peeve 'em all off, and let them sort it. The blame is now off you! ;p
2006-07-18 06:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"my mum is having dinner guests and her boss coming over this friday, it will all be clean and quiet, sorry guys but i guess i am going to have to cancel it"
2006-07-18 06:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them up front,, and if they are friends they will understand,, my friend knocked on my door one day and i didnt open it,, he knew i was home,, he later asked me about it and i told him i didnt want to see him at that moment,, he got a little miffed, but understood
2006-07-18 06:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by scottfamilytribe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them u hav to go some plc else its an emergency
2006-07-18 06:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Thewall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋