Is 16 years too much of a age diffrence in a serious romantic relationship?

Question

Im 23 he is 39. But he doesnt act it I really have fallen for him and he treats me better that anyone ever has. But I really worry about the age diffrence will it become a problem later on?

Answer 1

Pretty big age difference. You still have changes to go through yet. I would just date him for another year or so before making any rash decisions. Then again, it might take a guy that much older to meet your maturity level. But then again, some of them never grow up.

Answer 2

Wow; he could "almost" be your father. It really puts a damper on things doesn't it.

I am 39 but a female,,, and I couldn't see myself w/ a 23 yr old... but I know it is done all the time... Love is a mystery, and we can't control our feeling sometimes.
I know that most 39 year olds are in better shape than 23 yr olds.
Plus, he would be already setteled in life, well hopefully, if not, you need to run.....
There will be a age difference.. his muscles will sag when you are at your peak in life. You will be ready to travel, when he will most likely not be able to walk long distances,,,,not that i am saying that will happen... but I think you really need to ask your self why you shouldn't end this relationship, or why it is o.k. to run w/ it.

But hey~ if he has money, and your family accepts him,,,,,then by all means go for it,, life it too short..
(Just joking about the money; but my husband and i had to work our way up/ you will already be there! lol he-he)

Answer 3

The PC answer is no it doesn't matter. But there are things you have to think about and see if you're willing to accept them. First, he's not gonna be that young if and when you have children and when your children grows up unless if you're ready to have children now. How will you feel about that? Second, by the time you reach your 30's which is when your libido will peak, he'll be 46 at least. Will he be able to keep up with you? Also remember that you two will be in different stages of your lives. Is that gonna bother either one of you? Also how does your family feels about this? True, it's your life, but you'll still have to deal with your family. And is this your first true love? We all get attached to our first true love more because they're special, but don't let that blind you if he's wrong for you. After all is said and done and if you're willing to accept certain facts and consequences, then by all means go for it. My ex boyfriend's parents have a huge age difference too and they're doing great, although they got together much later on in life. Don't know if that makes a difference.

Answer 4

Im 36 and my partner is 45,we dont see any difference in our age gap.
The only people who seem to notice the difference are when we go on holiday.
You will find an older man will treat you with more respect and have manners that are long gone in a younger male.
My partner still holds doors open for me,if we walk down the road he always makes sure im on the inside so i dont get splashed by passing cars,if we get a bus anywhere he makes sure i sit on the inside so i dont get bumped by anyone coming down the bus.
He has old fashioned values and its refreshing.
An older man has more patience and isnt in a hurry(if you know what i mean).
My x partner was roughly the same age as myself and the difference between him and my now partner is massive.
The age gap only becomes a problem if you let it become 1.
Your family may seem abit concerned(as was mine) in the beginning,but,once they get to know your partner and see how he treats you they will come round.
Dont put too much emphasis on the age gap(dont tell everyone who will listen that hes 16 years older than you,its embarrassing for him and will be for you).
Enjoy yourself and dont worry.
christy

Answer 5

This depends much on the individuals. I have a friend who is married to a guy 18 years her senior and he has an old head mentality like, I'm not gonna let this 33 year old tell me what to do. Then I have another friend who seems to turn into a school child when ever her 16 year senior makes a request of her, she just can't say no! I believe it heavily depends on the maturity levels of both individuals. The younger counterpart to be mature enough to handle someone that much their senior and the older counterpart not to take full advantage of the mental dominance over the younger counterpart.

Answer 6

Don't worry about what people think girl!
Don't ever let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent! If you have fallen in love with this special guy. then let nothing in this world set you apart!

If he is 16 years apart from you. Don't worry about it so much it's the love you have that is worth it all.
If you really think he is the one that you could be with for ever and ever and by your side then by all means don't be worrying.. it's ok...
If not then.. girl you got to get someone else...
But Love is a possion that burns forever!

Answer 7

No, it's not a problem. But you are 23, have you had enough time to experience life before embarking on this serious romantic relationship. If so, go for it. Enjoy the experience of an older man has to offer.

Answer 8

Since you're 23 it's fine. Go for it. I'm sure your more mature than he is anyway.

Actually, the more I think about it, the better off you are. At 39, he's probably done fooling around and perhaps ready to settle down. I think it'll work out good for you. The real question is are you ready to settle down?

Answer 9

Just let him know (as I'm sure that you already have) that although he's older than you, that doesn't mean that he can boss you around and/or treat you like a child rather than a girlfriend.

Obviously, you like this guy a lot, and I'm sure he likes you just as much! He should be completely understanding of any reservations or hesitation that you might have!

I hope everything works out for the best!

Answer 10

If he is 39 and doesn't act it that might be a problem within himself. However, if you really like him and he really likes you, then the age difference should not be a problem