AHHH, i dont want to hang out with her, but i feeel so bad calling her telling her all the time that i cant hang out and have to lie and make up some excuse as to why i dont want to hang out...
i feel so guilty, but at the same time i feel even worse about calling her and lying to her just because i dont want to chill
shes my cousin, its not like i can blow her offf...
****, im frustrated now
2006-07-18 05:53:59 · 24 answers · asked by C. D 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should just be honest with her.
2006-07-18 05:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Carla G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As much as you hate it, she is your cousin, so you should hang out with her at least some of the time, and when you do hang out with her try to plan something that might be more fun for both of you. If you feel like she calls and wants to hang out to much, just tell her that you don't really feel like hanging out that day, or possibly reschedual, but be nice the whole time. Whatever you do, she's still your cousin and she's not going to disapear, so make the best of things.
2006-07-18 06:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be so sensitive. You cousin will know that she is boring when you refuse her a few times. Do not say anything, and do not be directly honest with her by saying you don't want to hang out with her. It is bad, and hurts her feelings.
If you see her, talk with friendly as part of family, and find any reason not to hang with her. shew will know you and she can not be friends, but still be good cousins.
2006-07-18 06:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You created this mess because you were not honest with yourself. Family is family, you can't choose them. If you do not want to hang with your cousin all of the time, I can understand, but at least once a month you should just to be inclusive of family. When she contacts you outside of that monthly visit, tell her you do not wish to be involved. Be truthful without having to be distateful. Examples, "I'd rather not go." "No, thank you." "Sorry, but I don't want to." See how you can be honest without being cruel?
2006-07-18 05:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do... set up a date in the future when you are willing to do something on your terms. Say, a month from now. By scheduling something in advance, hopefully the last-minute "lets hang out" calls will stop.
2006-07-18 05:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by J.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what u think is rite. if u think that bailing out on ur cousin is cool and u wont feel guilty, then do that. or if u think that family comes first, then call her. maybe u'll see that u will start liking her. if u dont, then gently tell her that you can her dont have that much in common. be as kind as u can be.
overall, just follow what ur heart says. i mean, she is ur cousin, and u cant replace family.
2006-07-18 06:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by music is my language 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her up and tell her you are not in the mood to hang out now, than dedicate a time in your mind that you will go out with her just for her sake and , then you call her to take her out, she will be happy you called her and you will be ready and in the mood.
2006-07-18 05:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Joe The Great One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having some issues with why you dont want to chill with her then you should be honest and tell her. Maybe she can correct those things about herself and you will want to hang with her. My motto is honesty even though it can hurt feelings sometimes.
2006-07-18 05:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by hunnybunny7794 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with her once in a while act like an *** or something then she might not wanna hang out anymore!!!
2006-07-18 05:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why dont you just tell her the truth, is your cousin really that bad. although she is family and you do not want to end like one of those families who get all mad and start fights and then hold grudges for years, its your call!
2006-07-18 05:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same reason here.......One time my cousin pulled my hair and got away with it.....I still forgave her because family is the best! That's how family rolls Go see the movie CLICK It will help!
2006-07-18 06:07:30 · answer #11 · answered by Bibi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋