Once I talk to someone I always hit it off with the person, but it is always those first days that I see someone whether it be at work or at school where it is awkward. I tend to avoid them. I have a problem taking a relationship to the next level. Friendships or the next move with my gf, what can I do to fix this?
2006-07-18 05:40:46 · 11 answers · asked by staylowsaylo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,
Have you been rejected in the past? It may have been from a friend or a girl you really liked? It could of been just a little thing that mad you really sad and could of caused a scar there forever. I sometimes Have a hard time going to the next level with my guy friend. Mainly cause Im scared they really don't love me like they say they do. and I have really never had a guy in my life treat me the way this one guys does and I don't know how to respond to it, When you are treated one way with a girl and the next a totally different way. It's a weird change..
But for me It's a guy im refering to. I had to be someone I'm Not! To get his attention.. But now I got this guy that is treating me like Im a princess and Im being myself.. So you know.. maybe you were treated that way in the past and the thoughts of that or the hurts are still there.. Even though you put them way back in your mind. they are still there. Or else You are just ready for commitment at this time. and not even thinking about it.. you are pushing it away.. that happens to me too. When a guy wants to start up a relationship its like I push him away.. Or for the love he gives I want to show that I hate him. But that is also because I was hurt with my ex really bad. and Im in the process of getting over it.. still and its been several years.
You know it could also be God telling you that hey..
Watch it.. I want you to get a relationship with me first then everything else will come into place. There is alot of reasons what this could happening hun,
But I just think u are not ready yet. Don't push it if your not ready. Just make it fun.. Flirt and hang out and have a conversation. But you don't have to worry about a commitment in a relationship until you are fully ready.
Cause It's all about you. a relationship isnt one sided.
So If you like this girl and want to get something started with her then get something started. But if not just be friends and hang out and talk and don't worry so much about asking her out and making that big step.
It's ok to wait hun, It's ok... I know society is so pushy in a lot of area's but you know what. I want to start pushing the fact that waiting is ok too. Society is all about the money. Pushing sex, cause it sells, Pushing drugs, Cause it sells, Pushing relationships cause it sells, (In magizines,movies,internet) But they push the fact that you have to be at a certain age. and push the fact you have to have a certain apperance to satisfy. Don't go with the flow. Just wait it out... Don't be quick to commit!
and don't worry about it... Leave it to God!
Pray about it....
Good luck!
2006-07-18 05:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you have a physical and mental attraction to. That's all you need to get something going. After awhile if it isn't going how you want it go then let it go and move on. There are lots of choices to choose from you'll find someone perfect for you in the time to come. It may get hard at times but life goes on so just push for what you really want in a relationship.
2006-07-18 12:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always akward to talk to someone new. Just keep in mind that they are probably just as nervous as you are. Get on-line and find some easy to remember & non-offensive jokes that you can use as ice breakers. Odds are that they can tell you're nervous. And as far as the next move with your gf, talk to her & be honest. She may think you are being standoffish and it may be a relief to know it isn't her but you & your nerves. It'll be okay. Good luck.
2006-07-18 12:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to them get to know them You sound really shy, but girls like that. just dont' avoid them b/c they'll think you don't like them. as far as taking it to the next level sometimes you just have to be bold and it doesnt' always go as planned but the only way to learn is to mess up sometimes experience is the best teacher.
2006-07-18 12:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by atotalditz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them...conversation is the key. Are you afraid of commitment? Do you want to be more than just friends?
2006-07-18 12:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to sit down and talk to them on the phone first.
2006-07-18 12:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by zariah1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you get shy and awkward-don't ignore her you'll hurt her feelings. communicate even if its a smile or nod or phone call or im or flowers or mail a postcard.
2006-07-18 12:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show them your man parts. if they stay then it was meant to be. if they run away screaming then you know it will never be.
actually, you just have to get over it, and stop avoiding them.
2006-07-18 12:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by wagner7123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take things slow and get to know them better so your comfortable with them
2006-07-18 12:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by southern_bell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so eager to rush things.
take things slow and at ur own pace.
2006-07-18 12:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋