So I asked a question about Eve and got a tounge lashing by some of the Christians ont he site. One told me God hates me - the other called me an idiot and then made fun of me.
Is this really the type of witnessing that you want to do to people trying to understand your faith?
I grew up Baptist and have really been missing fellowshipping with Christians. I am gay and I figure that is between me and God to figure out later. I did want to provoke some discussions and maybe enlighten some of you on my views. But after reading those entires it just sets me back again and I feel like pulling away from a vengeful God and a vicious congregation.
What is a person to do if they want to fellowship but they are not perfect? I am hoping to find a God and a congregation that can accept me for my heart and not judge me so quickly.
Any suggestions?
2006-07-18 05:39:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Honestly - as for being gay - the only real trouble I have is with Christians who keep telling me I am going to hell. I happen to have prayed many many times about my sexual orientation and not once have I felt like God was comdeming me. I feel only love when I converse with God, I feel safe and happy and accepted. I feel he made me the way he wants me. I also feel like the Bible is a great book that we can learn a lot from but I do not believe it 100% I think that through translation it has lost some of it's origional meaning and has been tainted by mans thoughts and ideas.
I think having a personal realtionship with God is more important than following a specifc mantra.
No me and God are okay - and when time comes for me to be judged by him so be it - that is between he and I. I think I am doing my best to live the life God gave me.
2006-07-18 07:22:00 · update #1
I am truely sorry about those who gave you a tounge lashing who call themselfs Christians. God does not hate you, or anyone. He hates their sins. God loves me. When I sin He still loves me, but he hates the sin that I commited.
If you live here in NC I want to invite you to People's Baptist Churh in Greenville. I'd want you to meet a church full of people who would accept you and love you. Yes we believe that being gay is wrong, but we will still accept you. We might try to show you why and where the Bible says its wrong, but we would still accept you. We have people in our church, members, who are recovering drug addicts, have problems with drinking.
If you don't live near Greenville, NC but are visiting near us, please stop by. I will pray that you find a Baptist church that will accept you and fellowship with you.
2006-07-18 05:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by redeyedtreefrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to keep searching. Some people are more understanding than others. However, I can tell you to avoid the independent Baptist churches. They are pretty unyielding when they find out that a member is doing something that they consider sinful and will not let up until the person is doing things the "right" way. I do want to applaud you for your bravery to continue to live your lifestyle in spite of the opinions of many Christians. The world needs more people like you.
2006-07-18 05:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are churches that accept gay people as an active part of their congregation. Unfortunately, it is easier to judge those that are different. People who are not gay do not understand the issues that they go through. Many ignorant people think that gay people chose this way of life as a form of rebellion or because they have some past personal issues. Perhaps, they should re-read the scripture and see how Jesus dealt with those that the main stream wanted nothing to do with. Best wishes in your search.
2006-07-18 05:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by E Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should be accepting of you as a person and witnessing to you about the sin of homosexuality! To distance themselves from you is wrong because it's through their witness and God's Word dealing with your life that your sins are forgiven. Shame on them for making you feel so low because you're gay! Homosexuality is a sin and can be forgiven, but the sinner has to be taught how to worship and develop that relationship with God. The other people in the congregation have no right to judge based on a Scripture in Matthew that says, "Judge not lest ye be judged. For with what measure ye meet, it shall be measured unto you again." I hope and pray that you and God "figure out" your homosexuality, and I also pray that you find a loving, caring church that will preach the truth in good times and bad, that will accept you for who you are until you can step into the role of what GOD wants you to be!
2006-07-18 05:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by bigvol662004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey, God looks into ur heart not what other ppl think! he luvs you very much thats why he died for you! i dont kno but in my opinion homosexuality is a sin! i am a baptist and i also get lost and cant find my way back if you pray to god, god will always answer you. Plus God doesnt hate you he hates the sins that we do! you should go to church and ask the pastor to pray for you! Stay close to God and he will take care of you!
God Bless You !
2006-07-18 05:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can speak as one out of church and out of fellowship wth God myself. I didnt understand after I left church why some of the Christians didnt come around no more, but then it hit me. What are we gonna talk about. They will talk about church and whats been going on there, or how they might have witnessed to someone that week. Me being out of church I dont know whats going on in my church now, so kind of hard for me to keep up. I seen where you said you are gay and your looking for a God to accept that, but would that god your looking for be the one true God? I do not think your a bad person I just think you need God to help you with your situation, and I know He can. Are you looking for help to stop being gay or just someone to accept you? Would love to chat more on this if you would like.
2006-07-18 07:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you fellowship is because you are not perfect. None of the people in that gathering are. When you go to fellowship, you and fellow brethren share problems and answers that each other may have. And for those 'christians ' whoare saying those thing to you... I've said it a million times and I'll say it again, what kind of example are you trying to set??? STOP IT!!! You are only drawing people furthur away! As for you, just ignore them. I hope that answered your fellowship question.
2006-07-18 05:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jade A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theses "Christian" from that website you visited are called "apostates". Apostates are people who talk or do things against there very own religious belief because some how they're wires got crossed. You can't let peoples like that stir you away for your religious inclinations. Read your bible and make peace with God. You aren't perfect, well no kidding, no one is, and God knows that. God is willing to receive anyone who tries to reach out to him. BUT YOU HAVE TO TRY! Keep going and you will find the answers you are looking for. Trust me.
2006-07-18 05:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are absolutely right about that being the wrong kind of witnessing! We are not supposed to point our fingers, speak harshly or belittle anyone! We are supposed to love everyone not only the ones WE think are "right". Those people who judge and namecall are wrong and are NOT being an example of God's unconditional love! We are to speak gently and kindly to all!
In terms of you missing fellowship, that is because it is vital to our spiritual growth and our "support" system to have fellowship. God wants us to fellowship together! I pray you can find a group or a church where you can worship with others! And remember, NOONE is perfect and God/Jesus does not expect any of us to be perfect. He doesn't say, "Get perfect, then come to me"...He says, "Come to me, as you are and I will help you." I will pray for you, that you will find peace and a place of worship. Don't give up, Don't blame God and Don't listen to those who judge, belittle, berate or call you names. THEY are not pleasing to God! One who wishes to worship and praise God IS pleasing to Him! God bless, my friend!
Oh, and as far as your sexual orientation, you're right about that also! THAT is between you and God! Don't let people tell you that you are a sinner...We are ALL sinners...a sin is a sin is a sin and passing judgement is also a sin! Good grace to you!
2006-07-18 05:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by amomentssunlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am truly sorry that there are people here who claim to be christian and who act less mannered than most preschoolers. please do not judge God by people who CLAIM to follow him. the only way you can find him is to go to his source. you asked what a person was to do if they want to fellowship but are not perfect. well, you have to remember that the people you are looking to fellowship with are not perfect either (no matter what they may think or try to convince you of.) i pray that you do find the fellowship you are looking for.
2006-07-18 05:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by WVMagpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋