I laid my ring on my dresser, the next morning it was gone. Earlier that morning my step-daughter was in my bathroom flushing the toilet, then immediately went downstairs and used another bathroom. After looking all day she said maybe you dropped your ring in the toilet and now a bum will have it. The bum can pawn it and have money to eat on. She then called from her friends house to tell me that she had lost the $200.00 ring that I had given to her on her 13th birthday. It is obvious that she is mad because before I came along she had her dad all to herself, she will say that to me. Her father and I were highschool sweethearts 25 years ago. How do I not have harsh feelings toward her if I don't find the ring? On top of everthing else, the ring was my grandfathers, then my mothers, and now mine. She just thought my husband had bought it for me. I am so sad that I just ache!
2006-07-18 05:07:13 · 12 answers · asked by moe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you and your husband tolerate her bad behavior this will only encourage her to continue acting out and disrupting the family. She has violated you in your own home. Her behavior is serious and could lead to her committing more serious crimes or acts of violence. You and your husband must decide on a reasonable form of punishment for your step daughter, then YOU deliver the bad news to her with your husband there to back you up. If he refuses then you have a whole new set of unpleasant issues to resolve.
Oh... and call a plumber asap.
2006-07-18 06:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Texas_X 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with her. Tell her the history of the ring and how much it means to you. ASk if she has seen it and if you feel she is plain-faced lying to you, tell her that you suspect that she may have done something to it in you absence. Also, make it clear that you have not said anything to her father about it yet becasue you want to give her the benefit of the doubt and also that you're not trying to get her in trouble. Hopefully, she will either tell the truth or at least help you look for it. If neither happen, then I think it would be time to bring her father into the situation. It's hard being a step-child; I was one to a woman that hated me, made my dad hit me and then left him with nothing. Just try to make her comfortable with talking to you and being honest with you no matter what the problem is. Both of you will only benefit from it. Hope this helps!!!
2006-07-18 12:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by sylverrage84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use that toilet anymore until you can call a plumber to see if you have a TRAP in the plumbing. If you do, he may be able to find the ring for you. Some treatment plants also have metal detectors to screen the refuse and it may turn up there. I would be getting on the phone ASAP. As far as the daughter goes, a real good a$$ whoopin is in order from her father. Either that or she can babysit until the 6k is paid off. Not one penny for her, all goes to you for the ring! There are also lawns that need mowing and shrubs that need trimmin'.
2006-07-18 12:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jeep Driver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not have insurance on the ring? Man, that is terrible.
Seriously, don't panic. However, I would inform your step daughter that she owes you $6000.00. As soon as possible, I would demand that she get a part-time job, in order to start paying you back for the value of the ring- $6000. Let her know that she can make payments. What she did was extremely irresponsible! Extremely irresponsible. She needs to learn how valuable things are. She has no idea how valuable the ring was- not just monetarily, but in terms of sentimental value.
I wish you good luck. You may try calling a plumber to see if you could recover the ring, but I wouldn't get my hopes up. It is probably lost.
2006-07-18 12:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know where your house trap is in your house open that up and the ring could be sitting right there. A ring is heavy so in a drain pipe it won't make it to the sewer. Or you can call a plumbing/sewer drain cleaning company by your area and u can ask for a camera inspection of the pipe to locate your ring. I'm a plumber in NY and that normally works.
2006-07-18 12:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Curtis P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously going through alot of emotions right now. Screaming or flying off the handle on your part will not help at all. You need to sit down with her father and discuss what you think happened to the ring and get him to help you approach your step daughter about the ring. She is obviously jealous of you and feel that you have intruded into their lives and you have taken her father away from her. You three may even need family therapy. But i suggest you talk tell her you will never take her father away from her and that you want to be apart of her life to. You need to make sure her father is spending quality time with her without you. Just the two of them she needs lots of reassurance right now from her father. Maybe latter she will start to want to have a relationship with you but right now she needs to know she has her fathers undivided attention and unconditional love. But you cant let her get away with acting out.
2006-07-18 12:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a harsh spanking. Just going by what you have said here, the chances she's done something with it are pretty great. You better get to the bottom of it and quick. That girl however, needs to be whooped over and over and over again
2006-07-18 12:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut off the plumbing and see if you can find the ring. if its there, you know it was her, and talk to your husband about it.
sounds like she may need some counseling or just a good talk from her dad.
2006-07-18 12:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by I Wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sorry abt the ring,, but i guess u should sit down and talk to her and mak her realise her mistake..If she doesn't listen Bang her ***!! If u let go this , she will never ever listen to u....
2006-07-18 12:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by smashbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wasn't your wedding ring on your finger where it belongs? If it had been, then you wouldn't be in this situation, would you?
2006-07-18 16:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋