Ive been really stressed out trying to make all of my girlfriends plans work for her. We've been painting my cabinets, she invited her folks over for dinner so we would have motivation to finish.
I never thought we would get done. I was emailing my friend and blew a few things out of proportion to get some feedback. Things that probably werent true but were for his eyes only. My girlfriend found those emails somehow and now Im a Jack@ss for talking about her behind her back. We were talking like guys. I was not talking to my girfriend, I dont even know how she found them, or what she was looking for. Now Im a complete F*ckup. Shes devestatingly mad that I would talk behind her back. What should I do? I was going to talk with her about it. Now she hates the thought of me. I didnt betray her. She is the only girl in the world for me. I hate that she feels bad. I want to make it all better. What do I do?
Please save me your sarcasm. I would like positive feedback right now.
2006-07-18 04:55:58 · 17 answers · asked by Theandysullivan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Poor thing.... first of all you have to know why she is spying on you like that... this is terribly important you know....
Secondly you are allowed to have an overflow and share it with y our friend so please stop feeling bad... about that dont you think she wouldnt share her stuff with some friends ???
Thirdly check with your friend if he is really your friend.... ok that could be the one who wants your girl to be mad....
And now... tell her the thruth that you needed to talk and that some of the stuff where exagerate for sure.... and that the rest you needed advise before you talk with her....
Be sincere with her but stop feeling bad put a stop at your gultyness and talk to her as an equal... let her know you understand how she feels but that its just human what he did and that she surely do the same but it doesnt mean you do not love her.....
Please smile this is no big deal i understand she feels like that but you helping her raising her madness by feeling gulty stop her growing feeliings by being hoest to her and make her realise she is emplyfiing it.... as you are just a man and unfortunatly you are not perfect yet....
You can also tell her that next time youll talk to her first... that you understand it hurts her too much but that you did not want to hurt her at all....
Be careful with that friend or with your girlfriend someone doesnt trust you there.....
Good luck
2006-07-18 05:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to explain the pressure of the situation right now.
But right now you should probably let her cool down for a bit. After that, made it up for her try and let her know what your feeling at the moment when you did those emails.
Other than that, It's a game of chance for anything. She might not want to talk to you know (or for a while at that). I wish I could help some more, and I hope things go much better for you two.
2006-07-18 12:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by tainar2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you should say exactly the way you said it here. If you can send an email. From what you wrote all looks innocent. I'm sure she talks to her friends regarding you and you wouldn't be too crazy about what she says. All couples do it. I think she is more embarrased than anything else. She is probably wanting you to call and her and make an even bigger deal out of it. Keep telling her you are sorry that usually does it for us. Don't act like its nothing that will make her even madder.
2006-07-18 11:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to be mad at you, you should be the one to be mad at her for invading her privacy. If she wasn't being nosy dipping in your personal business then what she didn't know wouldn't hurt her. On that note she's just probably mad because she knows that there's some truth to what you said. I'm a female and believe me we talk about you guys too and we exaggerate too, so I'm sure you're not the only guilty party here.
2006-07-18 12:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to talk to her and tell her that you are sorry for everything that has happened with the two of you. Invite her over for dinner and explain what is going on if she really cares for you then she will come.Fix a nice dinner and have some flowers for her when she walks through the doors.
2006-07-18 12:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by vick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize to her. To be honest you did betray her, rather you were talking guy talk with the fellows; you were talking about her.
Just tell her how sorry you are and you will do anything to make it up to her. Believe me, it should work. My bf did the same exact thing (not by emails), and he realized that he was a jerk and apologize.
2006-07-18 12:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she got into your e-mail, she was obviously looking for something. Me being a female myself, I would think that she doesn't trust you and is trying to find proof that you are talking to other women, but while she was in there she wanted to see what else she could find out about you. She doesn't trust you, otherwise she would be leaving your e-mail alone. Change your password, or get a new e-mail address. Hope this helps.
2006-07-18 12:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did betray her. You acted like a boy instead of a man by spouting off to your friend about her. You have a choice now, stop denying that what you did was childish and apologize and keep her any way you can or you can continue with your childhood.
And no...that isn't sarcastic, thats truth, and you know it.
2006-07-18 11:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything takes time. You need to prove to her that you really do care and that you just messed up and you're sorry. DON'T give excuses or tell her that it was just for your friend and that you didn't mean for her to see it. She will just get even madder at you; I know that doesn't make sense to guys, but that is just a thing for most girls. It just takes one step at a time for this to go away. Saying you are sorry won't fix things, but it is a step to doing just that.
2006-07-18 12:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by soccerloverls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk it out with her, she may just need a little time to deal with it. I'm not being a smart@$$ but next time you might want to delete your sent emails and clear the pc history.
Good luck to you, I'm sure it will all work out.
2006-07-18 12:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋