I have a date on Friday with a guy that I've known since I was 8. I have liked him for the last couple of years but we were both in relationships at the time. I have had trouble getting over my ex-fiance (whom I was with on and off for 7 years) and I'm not sure if I'm ready to fall in love again, if that happens that is. And I think it could, I'm just scared, I need some advice.
2006-07-18 04:47:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's going to be REALLY hard.. but don't be afraid of love. one of the things i've learned in my relationships is that u may find many people that love you, or you love, but if it's not right, there's no reason to feel bad about yourself or what has happened.. it's OK. you WANT to be w/ someone who is Right for you, just as the one you loved but it didn't work out with, you would want them to find someone who makes them sooo happy. so keep an open mind, and set boundaries for what YOU want in a relationship. the problem is not falling in love..the problem is finding someone who loves you enough to be and do all things that you need in order to feel secure in a healthy relationship.
don't be scared to fall in love because of what might happen after... just make sure that you are a confident, happy and strong woman who knows how to treat a man, and *knows what she wants in a man.* that is most important , becuase most women tend to give up their boundaries and standards when they love a man, and start allowing themselves to be taken for granted. Please don't do that! whoever you meet, make sure they treat u w/ respect, the way you want to be treated, and then u can work on a loving relationship. find out if this man is worth it and deserves you before you start "falling in love". because your love is worth a LOT.
2006-07-18 04:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a date. It doesn't mean that you need to fall in love; or even if this is the one you will be with long-term. A date, especially a first date, does not mean long-term commitment. It is simply an opportunity to get to know someone in a different setting and set up possibilities for possible future events and time spent together. Just enjoy the night, talk, listen, and have fun. The fact that you have known him for so many years, just makes this date-night more at ease - you already know you are comfortable being around him. Don't make it out to be bigger than what it is. There are many who date a lot of people before they settle on "The One". Have fun. Enjoy. Good luck.
2006-07-18 04:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not be scared
just show up there, try not tomake any plans for you two,meaning future plans,
just meet him and see how things are rolling
try not to get vey optimistic, because you never know what is he feeling deep inside.
so keep your eyes open and notice every thing, so can think over later on.
it is not a must to fall for him on the first date!
even worse, is the stupid thing to do!
if you like him very much, keep a little distance until you are ready for a relationship.
in this time you will get to know him so will be sure he is not going to hurt you.
succes
2006-07-18 05:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by jecucristina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think about the ex. If you "fall in love" with an old friend, I don't see the problem. Maybe this guy is supposed to be your husband.
2006-07-18 04:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First know yourself what you want in life ask yrself do you still love yr ex what if after 2 yrs he comes back same feeling will come too so i wud say deal with him first and make sure you wont go to him even if what happens with yr new BF
2006-07-18 04:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by miztenasty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are wanting to take things slow, especially since you just got out of a long term relationship. If he's been your friend for that long, he'll understand.
2006-07-18 04:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it good and fun to date, you can avoid falling in love by not getting involve closely, date but not often, till when you are ready for another relationship
2006-07-18 05:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by nini g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you may desire to circulate to the park? are you able to circulate to a eating place or some thing particularly the place you would be interior? in any different case i'm afraid your going to freeze your fanny off. Is iceskating an determination?
2016-11-02 06:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and let things happen slowly.
2006-07-18 04:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not think too much
just enjoy it
2006-07-18 04:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by xzhou11377 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋