We dated for 8 months total, last month he decided things were too serious, so we backed off a little. He wants to date casually. I want a boyfriend. Thing is, for 6 out of the 8 months, he was the doting boyfriend. Until (totally out of the blue--after seeing the break-up) he decides he can't be in a serious relationship anymore. He still cares about me...and I still care for him. I just don't know...about anything. P.S. I'm 25.
2006-07-18 04:30:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you want him back? You said you wanted different things, that right there lets you know that you should not be together. We can still care about people but you have to know that if you want different things that will not change. Don't settle because you are lonely and missing him. He has told you he doesn't want a serious relationship in other words he just wants sex. Don't settle, girl. You are still young, someone will come that will be everything that you want.
2006-07-18 04:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U are ready for a serious relationship and he's not then U have no choice but too move on. He MAY find out that he really does want to be with U once U R outta the picture. ANd if he doesn't, well good ridence. I hate too tell ya this, but if he just out of the blue decided he wanted a casual relationship then honey he's seeing someone else. Test the waters, go out with other people, let him see what it feels like to have U in the arms of another man. Whether men will admit it or not they like a challenge. Don't make it so easy for this one to walk back into Ur life, and who knows U may find out that U don't really want him anyway.
2006-07-18 04:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both want different things, I'm sorry to say it's just not going to work. You want a relationship...why should you settle for less than that? And he does not...which makes it unfair to him to be in a relationship right now. At least it was only 8 months, not 8 years, so take what you learned here and apply it in the future. You're only 25, so don't stress. There is plenty of time for you to meet a guy who you are on the same page with. Good luck!
2006-07-18 04:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 25, so why are you asking this? I don't get it, but jsut the same, I would ahve to ask why you want him back? We all change, and hopefully we change in the same direction, since you haven't, you should go look for someone new. Yes, there are many more out there, even ones that will dote all over you.....or lastly, maybe he was getting to serious, and knew he didn't want to be that serious yet....in that case, you have to respect that decision, it isn't you.....let him go, and if he loves you, he shall return
2006-07-18 04:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him let him know how you feel and understand where you stand he might just be dealing with some commitment issues but if you truly believe in your heart that he wants different things out of the relationship after you talk walk away now because the pain you may feel now is less than the pain you would feel if you allow your self to believe that there is hope even though he has made it clear that's not what he wants .Good Luck
2006-07-18 04:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you date other guys. Ironically, when another guy who still might like you sees you going out with someone else, he will want you more, and he will be forced into deciding whether to pursue a serious relationship with you or not.
If it doesn't matter to him whether you are going out with someone else, then he probably really doesn't care for you as much as you think, and you can't force him to be in a serious relationship with you.
2006-07-18 04:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jacques H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you might as well expend your energy in taking good care of yourself, and enjoying the life you have. If he wants other things, what's the point? It's good you found out now, so you can find what you want.
2006-07-18 04:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want someone back who doesn't want the same things as you? When you let go of this you will make room in your life for some one who is closer to your ideal. God bless.
2006-07-18 04:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
em...i think what you should try and do is make yourself happy, obviosly you are not because you're not with your boyfriend. But the question is does he wanna be with you....i guess not
So i feel u should get on and you will definitely come across another......even though it's not as easy as i say it
2006-07-18 04:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by aMiDah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question. "We want different things" It will not work, let it go.
2006-07-18 04:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by awnery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋