I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first bf) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She always used to tell me about how she could never be friends with him again and how she hated so many things about him. Everytime they broke up he said he was sorry and that things would be different this time, and gave her the "wounded dog" look. Of course it was all bs. Now she's friends with him again and we've broken up. She really wanted to be friends and hang out. Now she's basically shut me out of her life (why would she do this?). I think she knows deep down inside it's a bad idea she's doing it anyway.
Look, I know she's gone so you don't have to remind me, it already bugs me. I obviously have to move on but she isn't dating him much less hanging out with him much so what could I do to make her open to be friends again?
2006-07-18 04:20:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after reading this my friend left me for her boyfriend just like him verbally abusing her we were friends for 6 years but h=it took her some time to realize that she needed me more then a dog like him . i think u should sit her down and talk to her and if she won't listen i would go to family members cuz she might be in danger he may have not hit her now but soon or later he will thats what happen to my friend
2006-07-18 04:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by hootiegurl132@yahoo.com 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should try and make friends gin. If she's mad up and broken up with the guy four or five times in spite of resistance from her family, then you were maybe a stop gap arrangement.
What's to stop her from going back to guy even after you make up with her?
Find someone else and forget her like a bad memory.
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2006-07-19 04:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Starreply 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls are like that - and mind you i am one too (or at least i was...)
some girls never learn....they just try and try again...and they 'love' to be abused.
in the way that they think THEY could change the situation - that only she is able to change him and everything will be good again.
maybe she even thinks that she was giving him a reason for treating her badly...
it sounds stupid - and even she did understand that it is stupid - but feelings can be addictive and she might be addicted to the feeling that she might be the one that changes the guy - and with that she could go out to everybody saying: look at me, i changed the guy - and he he isn't so bad after all!!!
do i make sense?
if not - talk to a family counselor----they know a lot about abusive relationships....and how it is not only the guys fault but also the girls' who wouldn't change their ways.....
perpetrators and victims are usually looking for eatchother to fullfill the otherones' need.....
2006-07-18 04:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just casually start talking to her ask her why she just shut you out without forewarning you and tell her how it hurt your feelings show her that you still are about her and that you would still do anything to have her back even as just a friend
2006-07-18 04:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she really doesn't like you enough
and thinks maybe ur mad at her or don't want to talk to her
Call her and leave as many messages as you can saying that u want to talk and go hang out or somethihng
maybe 1 or 2 is enough
2006-07-18 04:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Eng 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like trouble and a game player.. she obviously likes the jerky bad boy type.. so ignore her and talk to someone else..she'll come running back. and if not atleast you'll already be talkin to someone else
2006-07-18 04:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out on a friend date.
2006-07-18 04:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you politely ask her why she is doing this. Ask her if she feels this is right or if she might need your help. Tell her that whenever she might need you, you'll help her. Don't lie about this.
2006-07-18 04:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothafuka
if she did that to me i aint doin chit with her uh-uh
hell no not today
2006-07-18 04:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how u feel
and let nature take its course
2006-07-18 04:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by MARK C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋