I know a guy who is incapable of emotions and love. Help please!?

Question

Okay.. So my friend Grant who I've known for about a year is different from other people and I'm really the only person who understands him. Grant is incapable of emotion except anger and he snaps randomly for no reason. Every emotion that he has immediately turns into hate or anger inexplicably and he has a hard time controlling himself. He's almost constantly thinking about new ways or people that he wants to murder or harm. Sometimes it's a little bit scary but I'm the only person that he fully trusts and I know that deep down he loves me even if he can't say it. He's not like this with me, and I'm the only person in the whole world who he'd never harm, so I'm safe and as crazy as this might sound, I fully trust Grant with my own life but not with anyone else's because he'd probably snap around them and hurt them. Please help me.. Does anyone know what this is? Does it maybe sound like bipolar or something? Thanks.

Answer 1

Grant needs professional help, and no matter how much you want to help him, you can't.

Furthermore, while you might feel safe now that he'd never hurt you, people with rage issues almost always end up turning on those they love, even if it's not intentional.

Encourage him to get help, but for your own safety, you should get out now. His well-being is not your responsibility, nor is it worth your life.

Answer 2

sure, you are so much better than everyone else in the world, he'll do it to everyone else but you. Think about that. Does that make sense? Perhaps when he turns his anger on you, you might change your mind. Good luck with that one. You and Grant should be very miserable together

Answer 3

first to answer your question:::
it sounds to me like BPD Borderline Personality Disorder

http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.com/main/dsmiv.htm

this dude needs help.. i urge you do not tell him to get some... tell a school counselor. tell them you think hes bipolar tell them exactly word for word the details of your question precisely.. use it as a script even...please....your in danger...i believe you when you say that you trust him but i do urge you for the health and well being of him his life and everyone elses around you. he could murder soemone then go to jail.... and its sounds to me like you dont want any of that... he is less likely to hurt you then others but then again iyou may be around him alot...

i think all that you should say to him is that you trust him and that you know that he would never hurt you... maybe dont say it but keep that flavor in your communication with him often... itll settle him down and help him feel better or accepted or loved or somehting pleasent along those lines. angry people dont want to be angry and this makes them more angry. take his mind off anger for a while by telling him your feelings...carefuly

i think if you reveal your care for him then he is much less likely to hurt you..

perhaps if you show him love he may be able to love back...just maybe...

Answer 4

Grant DOES need help and no matter how much you trust him he could begin to distrust you and harm you. If you care for him you should encourage him to seek help. What you're describing is not healthy in any way....for either of you.

Answer 5

it definitely sounds like bipolar maybe even a case of schizophrenia, you should try talkin to grant and try to tell hI'm that he needs help im sure hes really a great guy, is he picked on? try telling school officials about the harassment

Answer 6

You need to get help from a psychiatrist ,this is to dangerous for you to handle .
He may change and turn on you in a heart beat . Both of you go to get help or get out of the relationship .
What if you accidentally got pregnant.
Don't play with fire .

Answer 7

He needs help! Don't be so sure your the person he would never harm.