mum always says hurtful things to my sis about her weight & its affecting her.how can we make her stop?

Answer 1

You don't say how your father reacts to all of this. If your father is in the picture, please talk to him and tell him that it's not helping your sister. You can do this tactfully. If he's not in the picture, tell your Mom. Even print out this question and MY answer. I was overweight when I was younger and my father always tried to get me to lose weight. His comments about my weight (although they weren't insulting) hurt me very much and did nothing to motivate me. They resulted in a strained relationship with him for years. If he'd only supported me and told me that I was fine just the way I was, the weight would've come off much sooner. I always felt that no matter what I did I didn't measure up.

Answer 2

You should talk to your mum and tell her that her actions had affected your sister's feelings. And tell her how you feel with regards to this. In this case, it might be difficult for your mum to listen or to accept your views. So be prepared if your mum still continue with her previous behaviour towards your sister.

Well, you can offer some advice and emotional support towards your sister by not saying or doing things that might hurt her feelings, especially if it's weight-related. When your mum says something hurtful to your sister, perhaps you could try to calm the situation down and not just turn a blind eye. Whatever it is, you sister should not be treated any lesser or is deserving of any crude remarks just because she might have weight problem.

I wish all goes well for you and your family.

Answer 3

You've given very few details about your sister's weight situation, and the weight situation of everyone else in the family, so answering this effectively is somewhat difficult. But, I'm going to give it a shot anyway because whatever the general situation is, there's one thing you can do that is always helpful (in my opinion anyway). And that's providing your sister with your support. Be on her side. But don't do it in a way that would cause you to suffer your mother's wrath. Explain to your sister that taking control of her weight situation will provide her with many rewards. Popularity, cute boyfriends, the praise of her mother, etc. Then, decide on goals. If you could stand to lose a couple of pounds yourself, you can make it a joint effort. How much does she/you want to weigh? What does she want to look like? Go to the library, and get books on the subjects of interest. If the information from the library seems outdated, don't worry, read it anyway. Find out from the possibly outdated books how your goals were thought to be reachable in the past. Bring the books home, and start keeping a scrapbook containing the information you find especially interesting or worth investigating or experimenting with. You know, things such as a list of what kind of foods are supposed to be part of a healthy diet. Then a list of which of those foods your sister and you enjoy. If you have different tastes, then keep separate lists. Then trying to figure out whether the healthy foods you and your sister enjoy would supply her/you with the nutrients needed for good health. Also pay attention to cravings. I suspect that sometimes our bodies crave certain foods because they contain nutrients that we may be deficient in. In addition to the library, you can also search the internet. There are literally zillions of pieces of information about weight control on the internet. As you wade through all that information, remember that every individual is different from everyone else. Consequently, some of the information may not work for everyone. Look for ideas and approaches that sound good to you, or seem to make sense to you, and then test them to see if they work for you. Be careful of course, don't get involved in anything that sounds like it might be dangerous to your health. Keep weight records. Weigh yourselves every day. Keep food intake records. Make notes in your records about what seems to work and what doesn't. Make it a team thing that you and your sister are involved in together. Something that you know you'll both remember in future years as a fun project that you two were involved in your younger years. It will bring you and your sister closer together, make your sister feel really special. And last but not least, your mom will notice. She'll be pleased with what's going on, and become a better mom. What she won't know is that the two of you taught her how to become a better mom by your actions. Well, she won't know that at first, but later, she'll figure it out, and might apologize for some of her hurtful actions, and tell you how much she appreciates the things you secretly taught her by being such a wonderful pair of sisters.

Answer 4

this can get serious if not stopped
if your sis gets bulimia she can die from it
tell your mom to STOP immediately
if your mom is still threatening your sis or acting superficial move your sis to your friends or grampas house

Answer 5

Start dogging the hell out of your mom. Bullys can usually dish it out but they have a hard time taking it. Degrate her. I know shes yur mom I know you probably love her, but you do what you have to do. maybe then she'll realize that words hurt.

Answer 6

Confront her! She shouldn't be treating your sis that way.

Answer 7

Yes, tell your sister to not be a fat whore

Answer 8

ever heard of anorexia/ bulimia/ binge eating???....this is usaully where it all starts....

Answer 9

Obey ur mom...