i cheated on my Fiancé 4 time and he cheated on me 1 we are till together but it hard for him to trust me and it hard from me to trust him but we love each other it just a sh*t lode of mistaces and i what someway to earn and learn to trust again.
2006-07-18 03:56:13 · 14 answers · asked by jordanjudy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i was cheating more emotional never really had sex with any on but him but
2006-07-19 02:41:02 · update #1
one of the guy did get close but just playing with **** and showed me his di*k
2006-07-19 02:42:04 · update #2
you need PRE MARRIAGE counseling before you consider walking down the aisle. Counseling can help you learn to trust again, and you BOTH need to go together.
if I were you I would think twice about getting married at all. If you both are inclined to cheat, I don't think you are emotionally ready for the committment of marriage.
2006-07-18 03:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then sorry to be blunt but what the hell are you two doing together? Forget the wedding-- trust my words-- if you continue this fowl relationship and get married i guarentee you will be down the divorce courts quicker than u can change your undies...
Im sorry- but you absolutely cannot get married because the vows may as well be written in chocolate and you wil be making fools of yourselves if u think that infidelity in your relationship can work.
Split up, move on and go be with someone else who has the same idea about 'playing the field' it will be right up your street. If you loved each other you would not be cheating. You both need to be alone for a while and think about the idea of what being in love means- then if you both agree get back together slowly and rebuild the respect and love up again before going any further
2006-07-18 04:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your proper self from the begin, be respectful and honest. Depending on who you might be dealing with you might earn their trust right away or you can need to continue to be honest time after time in order that they know they can trust you. Trust for some is a colossal deal, and it's one of the most keys to a robust relationship. So being honest is normally a must.
2016-08-09 01:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is EARNED, not handed out like candy. What's marriage without a little thing we call COMMITMENT? If you cannot commit to this "wonderful" guy, why marry him? Why even be engaged? Mistakes like this are not difficult to make, but are REALLY hard to make up for. You can't just beg and plead for it back. If you are so willing to throw trust out the window, why are you so dead-set on having this guy to yourself now? I am hoping guilt is the best medicine. I just cannot figure out how you can "love" each other, be engaged and not have enough respect for one another to just be with each other.
With this many "mistaces", it lends me to believe neither of you are ready for a forever union unless you are willing to grow up and realize that marriage is a monogamous union under the bound contact of loving marriage. You should pocket the ring and think really long and hard about your future together. The fact that this behavior that you both exhibit may continue may jeopardize everything, if it has not already.
This would be impossible for me to recover from. If I were him, the first time around I would take the infamous man out to dinner and tell him, "I'm done with her. You can have her since she has shown you are far more important then me" and walk out without paying my tab :)
2006-07-18 04:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by babefirstclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason if you continue to cheat on him. Maybe you are not suited. Me personally wouldn't take a girl back if she cheated but i can be self righteous as i've never cheated on a partner. treat others how you expect to be treated, can't go wrong if you do that.
2006-07-18 04:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you obviously weren't too concerned about earning trust when you were cheating on him four times......doesn't sound like either of you are mature enough for a lifelong commitment.
2006-07-18 05:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need Pre marriage counceling both together and apart before even thinking about walking down that isle. And stop having sex with other people. It was stupid to do to begin with.
2006-07-18 04:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is not meant to be. Why take on the ultimate commitment of marriage, if you can't commit to each other now? Too many bridges burned....I say cut your losses and move on.
2006-07-18 04:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by jrhauan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there are ways to earn the trust back
2006-07-18 03:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Sure. Have him cheat on you three more times and then it will be even. Then you can start all over again. (And probably continue cheating.)
2006-07-18 04:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋