I have known my boyfriend for 8years. We have dated for 3 years. I am 31 and he is 28. We have talked about marriage. He initiates the conversation, but it's just talk. We do a lot of things together. We go on vacations and enjoy each other. We are both financially stable with wonderful careers and no kids. I am trying not to give up, but it is beginning to become difficult. I love this man and he loves me. Help me out.
2006-07-18 03:49:34 · 20 answers · asked by swalkersw1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to be confident and make it clear to him want you need in order to continue the relationship. You have to be willing to end the relationship if he isn't committed to what you expect from the relationship at this point. You are both old enough to know whether this is "it" or not. If your not willing to end this relationship then you'll have to let the marriage thing go. In the end, it's your decision. The worst thing you could do would be to move in together because that would limit your options. You deserve to have that "I can't live without you" response from the guy you marry. Make sure this is the right guy and he feels the same way you do. It's the only way a marriage can work long-term. And remember who we partner with for "life" is the most important decision you'll ever make. Good luck.
2006-07-18 04:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by mwardmward 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a nudge and if he still refuses than push him over the cliff. You have no time to waste if you think you have kids in your future. Before you know it you'll be forty and wondering what happened to the last nine years. This is a normal problem when the woman is a few years older than the guy. She can see her clock ticking and he may only see the possibility of getting some strange. I think you need to sit down and set a FIRM date that you either split up or move to the next level. After 11 years of knowing each other and 3 years of dating I would think you would know if your compatible enough to make a marriage work.
2006-07-18 04:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Plantoneonme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job! Your husband isn't in college 24/7 so there is no reason he can no longer help with the toddlers even as you artwork! detect a job contained in the nighttime even as he's living house - he can learn after the toddlers are in mattress - like such distinctive different unmarried moms deal with to do. OR He can get an element time interest...humorous, my brother-in-regulation purely finished his masters. Works finished-time and has 2 youthful toddlers - yet nevertheless managed...your husband has no excuse! upon getting a job - save you money and flow OUT. with or with out him...you should all ought to squish right into a small 2 bedroom condominium in spite of the indisputable fact that it may positive as heck be better than living the position you at the prompt are. you should do IT!
2016-12-01 20:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by fahlman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really strange to me! Maybe he is waiting for the right moment to ask you. Have you let him know that you want to marry him? Let it go for about a year and if still no ring-speak to him about it and see what he has to say. Men do these type of things and normally have a good reason for not proposing after so long so don't worry!
2006-07-18 03:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he really wants too but is incredibly hesitant.i don't want to put any ill thoughts in your head, but maybe he's trying to figure out if he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you. this is a very similar situation with my b/f of over 3 yrs. but we are way too young to be looking into that at the moment(i just turned 21 and he's about to turn 23) so we will know when the time is right and when we will be able to take the next step in life. you and your b/f will be able to determine that as well(it seems as if you already have and he's on the brink of a decision, which i hope will lean in your favor). i wish you the best of luck and have a great relationship...give him time
2006-07-18 04:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he's afraid of commitment. He knows when he takes that big step, that it will be forever so he's taking it slow and making sure that it's what he wants probably. He probably doesn't believe in divorce so he wants to make sure he's making the right decision because it will be for good. You better talk to him more about it and ask him why he's not moving forward. If he's not planning on it, then maybe you should move on and stop wasting your time.
2006-07-18 04:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by KittyluvR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you want. You guys have know eachother long enough to get married. You need to talk to him. Does he want to get married? How long are you willing to wait for him? It is obvious you are not satisfied with the relationship and want to make the next step. You need to be with a man who wants to get married. Marriage is a deal breaker in a relationship. If your boyfriend does not want to get married in the near future you need to either accept that or move on.
2006-07-18 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it obvious he likes things just the way they are! If you really want to get married, you need to have a serious conversation with him and if he doesn't agree - you have a big decision to make.
Good luck to you, I wish you well.
2006-07-18 04:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by moss03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. He doesn't want to get married. So you either live with that for the time being or move on. If your happy though, I don't see why getting married will make you any happier.
2006-07-18 03:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by tobcol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when your getting the milk for free. I didn't get married till I was 42. had lots of milk. but found a cow wouldn't milk till i bought her
2006-07-18 03:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋