me and my boyfriend arelike so in love! but like thngs changed after awhile and like now my parents dont like him and like he dont have time for me anymore! all he talks and wants is the marines!
2006-07-18 03:47:55 · 16 answers · asked by PrIsSy LoVeS yOu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't. The reason being is that at 18 area (and I know this because I made almost the exact same statement you are making) you think you have found the person that is right for you and is perfect for you. From 16-25 area, who YOU are completely changes and that person that is good for you now isn't going to be good for you later. Also, I can tell you that dating/marrying a marine (or any military member) is very hard. A good friend of mine is married to a Navy Corpsman and they are working very hard just to keep the marriage together. Listen to your parents, they are wiser than you know, and know a lot more than you do.
I dated a girl when I was 18 that I thought was THE ONE for me. I fought with my parents constantly trying to get them to "understand that she's the right one for me". A few months after the last big argument with my parents, she left me for a guy that allowed her to walk all over him. That was 7 years ago. She is just barely taking care of herself and has made a complete slut of herself, never even got close to finishing college, and hates her life. Meanwhile, I matured, and found someone that is THE ONE for me, and we celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary this Friday. I am so glad that my parents were right about that girl because I would be miserable now if I somehow stayed together with her.
2006-07-18 03:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok I can surely relate to this because im in this kinda relationship now. Well ok my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years now and were so in love just like you and your boyfriend well yes things do change in the relationship but there that means you have to try a little harder to communicate more with him to ask him what he wants and you tell him what you want out of the relationship.
Communication is the key. Yes it can be really hard that the parents dont like the other person in the relationship cause well my parents for instants dont really like my bf much anymore cause they think he doest take care of me, but that doesnt matter for what they say. It matters to what you two think not them. There the ones that is not in the relationship, you two are.
As for the marines part well I really hate to say this but I was in a relationship like that before as the other person always talked about being in the marines or army and well it put a very hard toll on the relationship cause you dont know if they are going to come back or not.If you guys have the love in each other like you say you do then let him go to be a marine and support his decison.Be there when he comes home and talk to him over the phone when he calls, but if is really putting a damper on the relationship with you too then I would let him go .It is really hard but this at this point is were you two really need to do is sit down together and talk about what he wants and what you two are feeling for each other. If you do love him enough then tell him that you will support him in anything that he does and you will be there till the end when he comes home.
2006-07-18 03:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by leannie3176 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your parents just might not like him and only time can change it or maybe it will never change.
If however, your boyfriend is looking into the marines and doesn't have time for you, that's another issue. He's probably trying to break up with you slowly as not to hurt you (which isn't possible) because he's a nice guy but he wants to go into the marines and doesn't want you to wait for him.
I would ask him if he would like you to leave him be, to go into the marines, that you will understand if he says yes. Mean it. See what he says.
2006-07-18 03:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents know you best... How do they treat you in other areas of your life? If he wants to join the Marines, support him...it takes a real man to commit part of his life to the Marines.
Trust your parents and trust yourself...They love you
2006-07-18 03:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by rainbow44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try looking at your bf through your parents eyes. Don't marry him if he goes in the marines. I hate to talk in stereotypes, but every marine I have known (5) have all hit their wives.
2006-07-18 03:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by zacharybeaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious to know how old you and your boyfriend are. Sounds to me like you are still a little too immature for the relationship thing, and your boyfriend has future goals for himself. Maybe your parents are seeing something that you and your boyfriend do not.
2006-07-18 03:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by tramps3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that all the other boiz u went out with waz just so bad and try to make them think that they were and say they cheated on u but the 1 that u r with now iz all u think about and he alwayz tells u he luvz u the otherz just wanted sex
2006-07-18 03:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~aShLeY~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go to the Marines if he's so obsessed with it. As they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." If it's meant to be, he'll come back to you.
2006-07-18 03:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I think your parents called this one correctly. Let him go, he obviously does not want you as part of his life right now.
2006-07-18 03:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents will never understand. If you've heard enough complaints about your boyfriend, tell them to keep their opinions to themselves or you'll refuse to speak to them.
2006-07-18 03:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋