my twins turned 2 a couple weeks back, so we threw them a pool party and they had a slip n slide. Her twin brother had to be pried off of it, as well as the neighbor's 2 year old grandaughter. They loved the kiddie pool and slide, but my daughter screamed and kicked and bucked like a little horse whenever anyone tried to take her near it. Okay.. then this past Saturday, she spent the night with a family friend and the friend has an above ground pool, my daughter got in the pool with no problem, no fuss, What or was I doing anything wrong? Why did she do that? The water in th epool was clean, room temp, and not deep?
2006-07-18 03:45:48 · 14 answers · asked by Nyema 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When i was a small child, like your daughter, i too was afraid of water. (I do not remember it much now, but my mum is ready to repeate the whole story every time i ask her. By the way my mum is a doc). What my mum did to get me out of the fear was simple. She filled the bath partially with water, not much to frighten me, n turned off the tap. She took me in her arms n we just sat there. Slowly as i adjusted to it, she let the water level rise, upto my feet. No problem there. So she , after a while let the water level rise again till it coverd my legs. Because i was in her lap, i felt safe n didn't make a fuss. So, this way, slowly,(and i mean over a few days), she helped me overcome that. Maybe your friend took her in her arms n then went into the water with her securely in her lap or something, or maybe after seeing her bro n cousins all paly in the water a few days back, she ahd automatically overcome her fear.
This i know, when a child shows a fear of something, its not a temper tanturm, its real fear.
2006-07-18 04:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by power 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atmosphere of safety is a factor in small children. My own twins would have done similar things, what one would love the other would reject. They will get over it. As far as the fear of a certain object, the only thing you can do is back off and not force the issue. At that age, a slow start sometimes helps, for example, give the little one a small plastic cup to fill and dump the water out of, so she is in control of the water she seems so fearful of. Often it is not the activity itself, just the perception of how it will affect her. The unknown is real scary to a 2-year old.
2006-07-18 10:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by H2Ocolors 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be the amount of people in the pool/party. she could just be shy and not want to swim with other people. as for the slip n slide, she may just not be used to them and the felling of sliding out of control. my brother was horrified of any amount of water above his head until about 4/5 y/o. this was because he nearly drowned at 3 yeaars old in a public pool diving after a toy at the bottom. im not sure if she has any experiences like this but if she has its all a matter of trust.
good luck!
2006-07-18 10:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by hockey chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 16 month old absolutely loves to take a bath, but as soon as I tried to put him in a little pool(one of those little 2 ring blow up ones) he totally refused to get in it. I don't know if it's just a security thing or what. I just keep trying, and he seems to warm up to it a little more each time. Some kids just take time to like new things. Keep trying, but don't force it. You didn't do anything wrong. Kids are just weird about stuff...Don't you just wish they could tell us exactly what the problem is!!?? lol
Keep trying, and good luck!
2006-07-18 11:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by momx4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip and slides are very dangerous! Your child is very wise to be afraid of them, when I was 8 I slipped across 1 and a mole had pushed up right underneath and a small jagged rock cut my knee open, to the bone, I needed 27stitches, age 8, on my knee and couldn't walk for 3 weeks. True story, I'm very afraid of them!
2006-07-18 10:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 2 year old granddaughter loves the pool and the slip in slide, but if there is a bug, even an ant in the pool she wont get in. Shes not scared of bugs otherwise
2006-07-18 10:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my 2 yr old loves the water but it may be because he's a boy and he likes taking chances. Did you ever try getting in the water with her to let her see that it's ok? that might help alot. One time at the beach he ran full speed towards the water, hit a mud hole and fell face first. I picked him up, he spit out the water and started to laugh.
2006-07-18 10:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by dollbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was scared of the pool even with floaties on when he was under the age of 3, now at the age of 3 1/2 he loves being in the water. it just takes time
2006-07-19 11:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that you did any thing wrong she just wanted to be in charge of her body and the slip- slide made her feel unsteady until she feels safe and in control she probably wont go on it because she is afraid of falling
2006-07-18 10:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are weird, my niece will not get off the step of my mom's pool but will put on a life jacket and go way past where she can reach in the ocean (with an adult).....I don't get it
2006-07-18 10:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋