I would consider myself a pretty attractive person and guys are constantly coming up to me and "acting" like they're interested in getting to know who I am, but I'm always on guard because of something that happened a couple of months ago where I ended up heart broken after this guy let me think that things would lead into a relationship when he only wanted some booty.....I just want to know how I can tell the good guys and the players apart...wouldn't want to pass up a good thing......
2006-07-18 03:31:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's really no way of knowing unless you are willing to wait it out for a few months. Other options would be to date older guys that have already been through it in the past. I'll be honest, I was a comlete ****** player up until a couple years ago and didn't want anything to do with a relationship. Now here I am looking for a good girl reflecting back on all the good ones I had when I was not such a good guy. Everyone has to run into a few bad ones to recognize a good one, that's just the learning curve. Besides, if you're as hott as you say you are, you should have plenty of options :)
2006-07-19 11:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to tell. especially when he is a master at munipalation. some guys can come off as the good guy and end up being your worst nightmare. really you can only tell if you spend a long time getting to know this person.which means no booty, and you have to ask yourself will he wait that long, and if he does is he still getting it from somewhere else. if a guy really loves you he will do the right thing. i havent met a guy or seen a guy like that. just make sure you dont get to emotionally involved is your only protection. so if he turns out to be a jackass which nine times out of ten he will at least you will have yourself esteem. im still keeping my eyes open but im still living my life at the same time. you do the same.
2006-07-18 03:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to have your guard up and not trust people right now...As long as you don't say it, or show it, you can control it. Remember true colors are shown within the first 6 months of a relationship. Not only that you can be up front and ask. Men are very bold these days and will tell you what they are looking for right at the start.
2006-07-18 03:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Body language is your key. Guys who are sincere when they speak will give you nonverbal signs. For example, men tend to touch their stomachs when they are being sincere. Others will touch you to esablish a connection. (Women also do this) Be wary of any man who touches his hair a lot or establishes intense eye contact with you. When people are sincere, we feel vulnerable and find it difficult to maintain eye contact for more than a few seconds at a time. If he looks down or away, chances are that he's decent.
Watch their eyes, most people will look to the right or right-up (future) when they are lying and the left or up-left (past) when telling the truth.
Also, is the guy is just too well polished and rehearsed, chances are you aren't the first he's said those words to.
2006-07-18 03:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by TheAdviceGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a player is all about the game, he will not give you the numbers you need to make contact with him, just his cell. he also will want to meet you as soon as possible and move things right along because he has a agenda.
a real guy will take the time to go at your pace and really take the time to get to know you, maybe meet you somewhere of your choosing and asking what you would like to do. he will ask about family and what your beliefs are in different areas of life, like religion and possibly politics..good luck!
2006-07-18 03:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becaause they are eye-catching and just about each lady needs them. I have been given in touch with a participant as quickly as. He replace into soooooo eye-catching. of direction, then i found out he replace into speaking to 2 different females on the comparable time. i'm nonetheless kinda heartbroken and this modification into final novemeber in 2011.
2016-11-02 06:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but most guys are DOGS! all they want is a piece of "pie" then go on to another. they are scum bags (and its sad coming from a guy) i love my g/f and we are getting married in september. we havent been intimate at all but its definitely gonna be worth it come then. we just enjoy each other by spending time together and doing things like going to the movies, mall, whatever. to all guys who want @$$, go find a prostitute
2006-07-18 03:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by jack7906@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good guys will just like to talk.....and get to know YOU, not just your body. Everytime you hang out or date........won't have to end in something sexual. They like just hanging out with you, and having fun. I wouldn't give out your heart until you really get to know the guy, and what they're really after.
2006-07-18 03:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by high heat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good guys are the ones you least expect they are the only way is just to get to know them
2006-07-18 03:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he callz u alot and doezn't think of just hizself becuz i know but we aren't together right now cuz he had to move far away from here but we still talk
2006-07-18 03:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~aShLeY~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋