i've been in this relationship for 8 months., he's a sweet guy; but it seems like everything bad that you go wrong has happened in the last 3 months. I hate the way he handles his situation and i want to help but he won't let me. Also a small part of me feels like so distant from him, but how can i leave someone that is going thru so much and thinks i'm the only thing holding him together??
2006-07-18 03:20:20 · 7 answers · asked by Amaretto 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to lkove someone to care about them.
2006-07-18 03:25:12 · update #1
Sometimes guys don't like sharing their feelings with other people, no matter how close they are to that person. However, knowing that someone is there if he ever wants to open up or what not, is a big help and probably does in fact make him feel better. Men also don't really like having help from their significant others in most cases, maybe it has something to do with ruining part of their ego, but who knows.
If you really care about him and want to be with him, stick it through and just be there when he needs you to be and don't try to push helping him. Just be there. After everything blows over, your relationship might even come out even stronger.
2006-07-18 03:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by beachbum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about being smart. Its about being honest with your feelings. Maybe he feels that its a case of pity. . . or other feelings that lets you stay. Being pitied is really hard to take for a guy. Or maybe he just wants space. Let it be for a time. . . be yourself and just extend an open line. . . If you really care, show him that you respect his wishes for a time and let him know that you're available if he needs you. .. Sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind. He might be in the process of finding himself, and putting everything in perspective. What good would it bring if you stay when you dont have the will to do so, your asking the question and looking for affirmation from others. The best thing you can do is be strong to stick to your decision. To prolong the process of letting go is much more cruel than a swift leaving. Think things through, be honest and ask for guidance from God.
2006-07-18 10:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was put in the same predictament. I believe it all depends on the situation he is facing and making you go through with him. If the situation he is facing is a really big issue and too much for you to handle, get out, it may sound cruel, but it would be best if you just remain friends and be there for him until he get his problem resolved. At least, that is what I had to do, although I was in love with him, I had to let him go. He was my friend for a while then his demeanor changed and started treating me bad. Ultimately, I had to end the friendship, it was for the best. He is a good man, if he can be your friend until he get this situation resolved then get back together at the end.
2006-07-18 10:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Amenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for him, step back when the things are going on that he wants you to let him handle. Have fun with him and focus on other things. Before you know things will seem brighter. And just remind him now and then that you are there if he needs your advice.
If you dont want this step out gracefully.
2006-07-18 10:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Soldier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really loves him then u should stick with hime till get over this bad period
2006-07-18 10:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by nuwanusa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you either love him or don't. If can ask this question publicly you don't so might as well leave him.
2006-07-18 10:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by vegas_iwish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not smart , but love
2006-07-18 10:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by SUNIL Raj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋