Ok, let's say that there is an attractive girl. This girl has no problem getting asked out, but most of the guys that are asking her out are only wanting to "hook up" with her. The few guys that might be sincere are unfortunately not her type...whether it be looks or personality. The guys that just want a piece are often very good looking, but once it is realized that they only want a piece, the girl loses interest. My question is, why is it that the attractive guys only want her for sex, but the least attractive guys are willing to date her? Why does it seem that attractive guys and lesser attractive guys have complete opposite ideas when it comes to the same girl? By the way, the girl is not a slut and she does not have a reputation for being a slut. So that is not the reason.
2006-07-18 03:18:48 · 30 answers · asked by haray11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the attractive guys have more options
2006-07-18 03:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by h_wallbanga 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the attractive guy thinks he's so hot that the girls will give it up for nothing. The real problem is that for the most part they're right. Look at yourself, your questioning why some hot looking guy only wants you for sex. Guess what? Your not the only girl to be saying the same thing. The difference is the other girls either think their going to change this guy or they just want to be the next notch on the bed post. Guys like this are ***** plain and simple but they got that way because of girls having no self respect and a false sense of love or friendship. Look for the guy that's more in between the hot guy and the geek guy. Don't give it up just for kicks or because you think it's time. When the time is right it will happen. Concentrate on how to make yourself better and quite worrying about what some ****** guy thinks.
2006-07-18 03:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Plantoneonme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because good looking guys think that, because the are handsome, they can get any girl they want, even for just sex. An intelligent girl knows that and she's more interested in the personality of the guy better than his body (the attractive physical it's just a bonus when that's the case). In the other hand, the not so good looking guys think that it's not easy for them to date a beautiful girl and that's why they will try to be sincere with her, (because their personality, who are inside, it's what this guys can show to her as an attractive phase of them) instead of be just a horny guys.
2006-07-18 04:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Danny B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am definitely not a guy but I can answer your question. Not all attractive guys want to hit and split. It could be that you keep looking for the same types of guys "bad boys with nice looks" and keep getting the hit it and split result. Try exploring different types of guys that might not be a perfect match in your "type category" may bee you will get different results. Remember when you are attracted to someones personality is often times makes you persieve them as good looking too or their looks will begin to grow on you, just because you fall in love with the person rather than the face.
2006-07-18 03:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "not so good looking" or not your type see something else in you that the good looking ones do not. Ever see Shallow Hal? Ever hear the reason fat women are nice is because they have to be? Guys have the same thing going for them so when they do get the courage to ask you out, they respect you for allowing the time to get together on a date. They never think they can even come close to "bagging you" so they feel pretty good with just hanging with you and having a good time. Even after that, my guess is they are still shy or unsure about making love. Make any sense?
2006-07-18 03:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Master Kenobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually answered your own question. Good looking guys know that they have options, much the same as attractive girls. So they can pick and choose whom they want for sex this night and with whom they want a relationship. Average guys don't always have those options, so they are more sincere.
But your question is better answered by first asking why it is that the girl who already realizes that the average guys are sincere won't give them a chance? Sounds to me like you already know what would be better for you, but are holding out for something else.
2006-07-18 03:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by TheAdviceGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is that the attractive girl sees the good guys as unattractive or uninsteresting when they really aren't.
Maybe, subcounsciously, the attractive girl is looking for guys that treat her like sh*t.
Seriously, stereotypes don't work... there are many ugly guys that treat women like sh*t too, and many attractive guys that are also kind and caring...
Looks and personality have nothing to do with each other.
Maybe the problem is that you are the one picking the wrong guys.... maybe you are focusing too much on their appearance, or maybe you look for the most confident guys, which sometimes end up being a bit careless for others' feelings.
You have to keep looking, and have in mind that looks and personality have nothing to do with each other. Eventually, you'll find what you are looking for... don't rush it, it's a life-long search for most of us too.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 03:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Firefox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive guys have the ability to play the field and have multiple women. Therefore why would they want to settle down with just one girl, even if she is very attractive. Less attractive guys are happy with whatever they can get a hold of and lucky and grateful just to have a girl.
2006-07-18 03:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason is that the good looking guys know that if you say no they just move on to the next one they can get all girls.It seems to me that you are very picky since you look at guys appereance. maybe you are the one with the problem. Maybe you should get to know all these guys more than one day and that way you will find out what they really want from you.
2006-07-18 04:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the unattractive guys just want sex, too. They are willing to put up with more to get it, however, like longer term relationships, thinking that they love you, etc.
The better looking guys don't have to do as much, if anything, to get girls to agree to sleep with them, so they don't do anything. Why should they?
For teen boys, it is all about the nookie and doing whatever is required to get it. If any tell you different, it is because they can't do better than to hold out and wait for you.
2006-07-18 03:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Besmirched Tea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an attractive lad knows he's attractive. so he sells himself high. meaning he wants to date and be sincere to only a girl of his 'calibur'. before he does that, he wants to have fun with the not so 'up to his standards' kinda girls.
while for the less attractive lad, he knows he wouldn't stand a chance to date any girl he wants. so dating is a very difficult thing for the lad. thus if he were to encounter a relationship, the less attractive lad would want to keep the girl and be sincere to her.
get what i mean mate. i hope you do coz i wrote alot here. lol
2006-07-18 03:25:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋