Is there anything wrong with having 6 children?

Question

We are a family of 8. Myself and my husband have 6 children 6 months to 12 years. Would be interested in your views.

I would just like to add, that my husband works very hard and we do not "live" off of any benefits!! Thanks for all your views - interesting!!

Answer 1

If everyone on the planet had 6 children, just because they wanted to the world would be even more over populated than it already is. I know this is an unconventional answer but..it's the trueth. To many people having child after child after child..how many children does one need before they realize they've gone overboard in the breeding department. Don't people want to have a life before they are older without having to worry about coddling young ones day and night? I for one am looking forward to the day when I can sleep past 6 am on Saturday morning..sit naked in my living room and have sex in my kitchen in the middle of the day, if I so chose to! LOLOL

Answer 2

If you have the time, patience and money for a family that big I think it's wonderful!

I only have 2 children... I would love to have more.

I don't know if I would have the patience and we definitely don't have the money. My husband and I are teachers in Oklahoma(the lowest paid teachers in the nation). I love the 2 I have and know I would have more room in my heart for more.

The reason I wouldn't have the patience is because I am an only child... so having the 2 children is an experience for me and especially my mother... there are a lot of things she doesn't understand about having more than one.

I think it would also be fun for the kids... there is always someone around. Then when they grow-up they will have each other too. I long for a sibling relationship.

You are truly blessed!

Answer 3

Nothing is wrong at all so dont let people say there is! I come from a family of 10 kids and I wouldnt of changed it at all, most people today want the 2.4 kids... Each to their own, My husband and I have 4 kids and he has 4 from previous relationships..I personally think big families are far better for lots of different reason, always someone around, nobody bothered you at school because you had an army of older brother and sisters,(that was all well and good if you was the youngest and not the oldest like I was)

Good luck with your family!

Answer 4

Too Many Children Having Children!
You get more flies with honey. And you can get fewer babies, too.


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CRAP: The conventional view, typified by Congressional welfare-reduction proposals is, more or less, If a woman on welfare has more kids, cut off her welfare payments. Punish the woman for the awful sin of having another child. Cut 'em off, no more benefits. That will deter them from having more poor, unwanted children.

Alternative: Reward women for not having more kids. Or for not having any kids at all before a certain age. Or not without a stable partner. And so forth.



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Punishing behavior you want to discourage does not work well. Reward the behavior you want to encourage. Thank you, Prof. Skinner. Ask any animal trainer. People aren't very different. We respond well, too, to positive reinforcement.

A related example is a program that was tried a few years ago. A wealthy American started a program to pay young girls to remain virgin until they were married. The reward in this case was a large sum of money, some thousands of dollars as I recall, that could be used for educational expenses for instance. Of course, the philanthropist was thoroughly excoriated by social workers and the press. Paying someone not to have sex was seen as an unreasonable denial of human rights. (I note that paying someone to have sex, legal or otherwise, is not seen as a violation of rights, but logic rarely applies in these cases.) I couldn't at the time figure out why. I still can't, really, but I think that it was the incredible novelty of the idea that shocked people.

The idea was, perhaps, a bit extreme, and it is not directly applicable to this case. If we want young women not to have children in some circumstances, then let's reward precisely that behavior and not pick nits about how they accomplish it. If it is population and welfare control that we are concerned about, then we don't really care if they're not having kids because they're not having sex or because they're having sex safely and carefully.

Let's say we want young women not to have children before age, say, twenty. Okay, pay a bounty to any girl that makes it to her twentieth birthday without having a child. (I am informed by doctors that this can be determined reliably.) I hear a cry, But do you know how much that would cost? This is a joke, right? A one-time bounty of a few thousand dollars is tiny by comparison with the cost of caring for a child on welfare for years and years. What is the balance between the total number of twenty-year-old females and the total number of children supported by public assistance who were born to females under twenty? If there are many, many children who are supported by public assistance for many years, then the one-time bounty is a bargain for anyone whose behavior is changed. If there are only a few children, then why is this such a hot political issue at all?

Well, we really don't want to pay out a few hundred million dollars to all those females who never intended to have children until after that age, like all the ones who want to get through college. The proportion of under-20 females who have children is a small part of the overall population. Okay, let's narrow the group that is eligible for the bounty. For instance, if you and your children, if any, are already on public assistance, then your benefits for next year will go up if you don't have another child. If you take control of your life, you can have a better life. (Use the extra benefits to buy condoms, if necessary. :-)

There is a workable plan lurking in this idea, somewhere. We just have to find the right rules and the right boundaries, and we have to have the political will to brave the inkstorm. If the rewards are large enough, you can change people's behavior.

Answer 5

I would say that nothing is indeed wrong but certainly not ideal and impressive at that. First of all it is your right although not an open privilege to bear all the children you want to have provided you can afford and care for them. You must believe that the bigger the family is, the bigger the responsibilities. Less number of children gives you better management and control of everything about raising a family. I don't believe the idea that more is merrier considering the current problems of over population of the world. We should help than becomes an additional burden.

Answer 6

I came from a big family of 7, and I've had 9 children myself, 3 of which are grown, I don't think there is anything wrong with having 6 children or more as long as you are able to care for them, You go girl!!

Answer 7

no problem at all as long as the children have a loving, nurturing environment. More power to you.

You see the family with 16 (or is it 18) kids. All the children are well behaved, clean and respectful. So it doesn't matter the amount of children - it's the morals and values that the parents have and impart on those children that makes all the difference in the world.

Answer 8

My father had 17 children, 12 we my mother. That was 50years ago. We have 3 children (all boys). As an African we tend to have more children with the rationale being that children are your future worth. Of course long ago it was not very expensive looking after them. But now because of quality of life, most are only having less children. As our children are now older and all might be leaving home in about 5 years, I now trying to think, why did we not have more children from the beginning. Maybe could convince my wife to start again ( if possible).

Answer 9

People will always judge depending on their upbringing and circumstances and people can be hurtful. So if you are happy with your kids then that's all that counts.

People think I am wrong to have all the animals I have but they all have their cuddles and food and water and get out to play (not together). I wouldn't be without them.

People think I am wrong for NOT having children but I have made my decisions and I am happy with them so that's all that matters.

I think it's great, I grew up as an only child, but either ways there are positive and negative opinions:-
do you have time for them all
isn't money tight
they have each other to ask "difficult" questions that they are embarrarsed to ask mum or dad
they will have big brothers/sisters to protect them
have others to play with
saves on clothing bills - hand-me-downs
brother and sister fights
do you have enough space in your home or do they have to share rooms

........................................ the list goes on.

It is not for us to say whether it is wrong or right for you to have 6 children, it is you and your husband that must decide the answer.

Answer 10

The answer depends on what a previous person said -- if you can take care of 6 kids -- as well as how you feel about worldwide population growth. My personal take is that there are enough people on the planet, so I wouldn't choose to have more than 2 kids. However, I don't fault someone else for making a different decision.