I saw something special in this guy I met. He treated me so well and began to have feelings for me, and I did for him. I felt safe to relax, trust him and let him in. I eventually asked if he wanted to be exclusive and see only each other. He then began to pull away and it hurt, I felt betrayed. I tried to talk to him but all I got was smart remarks and anger. I freaked that this guy I had let into my heart wanted to run at the first sign of trouble. I was so surprised at his reaction.
Whys is this so hard? I haven't had this much trouble letting go in a long time. How do I move on? How do I stop this from hurting?
2006-07-18 03:10:57 · 25 answers · asked by beautiful disaster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there done that. No fun that's for sure.
It seems in relationships that if someone wants committment and something deeper and the other person splits it's one of two things
A: You moved too quick and they spooked. (I've done this more times then I care to recount:(
B: They enjoyed the chase and once you were caught the thrill was gone or you weren't "the one'
How to get over him?
Stay as busy as possible
Meeting someone else seems to work but often you end up just transfering your feelings to the new person and that isn't good.
Just go SLOW with any new peson.
We've all been where your at , it stinks, but you will heal in time.
and next let the other person ask you for committment first-this is huge trust me.
God Bless,
Brother Duane
2006-07-18 03:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Recognizing things special in a guy means there's things special about you. There's four things I will tell you that will hopefully help.
1)
If he wanted to pull away then you two were probably not mean together. Consider it as a good thing for the fact that a relationship can't be forced. If it were forced both parties would suffer.
2)
Your having a hard time letting go because you really like this person, perhaps more then you realize. It's best to recognise it. The best way to release a suffer is recognizing it instead of denying it (even though I don't think your denying it, but fallow this track :-)).
3)
Best way to let go of something:
1) try not to think about it
2) recognize that it's not meant for you
3) give it effort
4) give it time
4)
I would send the guy an e-mail or contact him some how and let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him the good things about him. Do it! I have a feeling you should do that.
You seem like a very nice person and caring. You also seem to have good qualities and I would hope things work out for you.
good luck
2006-07-18 10:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to take rejection, especially if you really do care about someone. It's sucks when people don't return the feelings that you have. Give it time. Time is the best healer. You can't really stop the hurt, but you can take your mind off of it. Hang out with your real friends. Go to a movie, go to a club, read a good book. Anything really that will take up time and keep you busy so you don't just sit and think about this guy that broke your heart.
2006-07-18 10:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by cdc92281 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there sweetie. It does hurt, but you can get through this because I did. You should spend time doing things, anything! Just go anywhere, librabies and pick-up some new novels. Go to see a funny movie with one of your close friends. Go exercise...that helps a lot! Don't sit at home and have a pity-party! I got through this road block in my life, and so can you!
2006-07-18 10:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by CTargrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are finding it hard to let go because you have strong feelings for him. Unfortunately, this happens sometime on our search for the person we spend the rest of our life with.
Try to focus on other things, give yourself time to heal. eventually you will heal and stop thinking about him and hurting over him so much, but it will take time.
Good luck with your life, and remember good things come to those who wait.
2006-07-18 10:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is hard because u must have really loved da guy but u cant do anything to stop this from hurting u jus gota go out have fun and keep living ur life no matter how hard it is but dont sit aroudn ur house crying cause dats not good and time only makes things harder but u will no wen it is da rite time to let go and dats wen u will let go but rite now even though yall arent together still keep holding on to him but trust me u will no wen it is time to let go
2006-07-18 10:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by *~~Tay Tay~~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you do for a child when his puppy gets run over? You get him a new puppy.
You need a new man. This guy obviously wasn't right for you, but now you know more about what you like in a man. Simply look for another one with similar characteristics. Best wishes
2006-07-18 10:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him or anyone that hangs with him for awhile. Go out and have a great time, and allow yourself to get angry so you get over it. He is not something you wanted anyway and it is good it happen now and not later. Spend time with yourself, get it all out and you will be over it before you know it.
2006-07-18 10:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Soldier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can talk to him and find out what the problem is... maybe he just needs some time to deal with things, but it sounds like he is not prepared (maturity, maybe) for a real serious relationship....
2006-07-18 10:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men, Men, Men. they can't never get enough. Sweety try to meet another guy but this time be more careful. You know what you should do. Don't date only one guy date TWO.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-18 10:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋