I am 21 years old and going into my Senior year of college at Missouri Valley. I study accounting and economics and hold various leadership positions around campus and in the community. I have had an Internship at an Accounting Firm for the past two summers and I am at the Federal Reserve Bank St. Louis now. I have been involved with a young lady for about 5 months now and she has things going for herself too. She is 23 and she is a great woman. My Question to you all is "Should I wait until I get my career started before I settle down, because Im sure I will have alot of opportunities out there" Should I do the Bachelor thing for a while? I know you would say im smart enough figure it out yourself. I just need your thoughts
2006-07-18 03:07:34 · 13 answers · asked by Karl J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are young and you may have the urge to experience more out of life before settling down. If its buggin you, you may not get over it no matter how cool your chick is until you live that bachelor's life with cash in your pocket. It depends on your personality too. Are you a relationship type dude or do you like to kick them out after you have enjoyed their company?
It also depends on what your objectives are, are you trying to wild out for a minute? Or are you trying to see how high your stock value is with other chicks that are doing their thing?
The good thing is that you have options, but consider the consequences before you hurt a good girl just to kick it with some freaks.
Trust me, that karma thing is real.
Also, your perspectives on life and relationships will change several times over the years before you really know what you want. Enjoy.
2006-07-18 03:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Darth Plagueis 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This issue has nothing to do with intelligence. Do what your heart tells you to do. I am 40 years old and have always followed my brain instead of my heart, and I am a bachelor. Don't get me wrong, I am EXTREMELY happy being a bachelor, wouldn't have it any other way. You just have to decide for yourself...what are your values, and is she the one you don't want to get away? When you are 40, will you look back and regret not having taken things further? When I was your age, I had a similar situation and decided to follow my brain instead of my heart. I have had regrets in the intervening years...she was the one I let get away. Then again, everything worked out well in the end. No one but your heart can tell you what to do.
2006-07-18 10:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by gadjitfreek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!! I live in St. Louis too!! There is never a right or wrong time for a relationship. If you really like her, then stick with it. Just be honest with her. But if i were you, I would not get in to a serious relationship while u are still figuring out your career, you dont need any distractions. Just have fun with it.
2006-07-18 10:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by luvinmjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could live my life over I think I would rather get my life in order before settling down. You can always keep your girlfiend though. Dating more girls would be distracting from your goal. If you were to just be alone for a while you could get lonely and bored. I say keep the girl but keep your goals for a carreer in mind. There's no good reason to settle down yet but partying and bordom would distract from your goals as well.
2006-07-18 10:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would settle down now because of your age and your relationship experience. You need time to experience life without have the headaches of being husband. She probably would wait for you. I would stay single for another 3-5 years.
2006-07-18 10:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, if you are asking this question then you may not be ready to settle down. Is there a risk of losing "your" woman if you keep it casual for right now? Sounds like you still need to do searching to wrap your arms around the idea of being with her only.
2006-07-18 10:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this girl, dont just give her up because you want "the bachelor thing". If shes not that special, then yeah, live it for awhile until you want to settle down.
2006-07-18 10:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by nothankyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are having these questions tells me this girl probably isn't The One. When it's real, you will just know what to do. Just live your life and if it was meant to be you will end up with this girl...if not, well you had a great experience, but it wasn't meant to be.
2006-07-18 10:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart you can still have a relationship and be successfull the same with her.If this is just a sex thing then let it go.The way you say there our other oppurtunitys out there to explore sounds like you arent ready to be commited to her so i would let her know before you hurt her even nore
2006-07-18 10:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you thnk she's worth it then stya with her but if you feel you can do better or that your curiosity will eventually get the better of you than don't string her along and do the bachelor thing.
2006-07-18 10:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by miss jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋