Attitude to Young mums?

Question

I have noticed that when a young girl has a question about being pregnant most people say it's too hard, they are too young suggesting abortion or adoption. God knows it is hard work but my first was born at 16 my second at 19 im now 22 and in my 2nd year of university and paying of a house all on my own. So for all you who look down on young mums get over it cos we can do a damn good job too!! So to my question i would like to know does anyone have a positive attitude towards young mum's out there? Maybe a supportive tale to tell?

Answer 1

I believe that anyone can rise to a tough situation. A young person just has to try a little harder because of what society feels is necessary to care for a child. A young person can give love just as an older person.

Answer 2

Many people feel they (young mothers) have thrown their life away, that they can not care for their child or theirself. Has it been easy for you? If so then you are one of the lucky ones. Most never make it as far as you have. Studies have shown that a child of a teen mother is more likely to fall behind in school, drop out, live under the provety line and become a teenage parent too. Not a happy picture.

The fact is there are many many bad stories out there, if you look at the news, how many items are up-lifting? Hardly any. People over all like to downtrot tale, the ugly story. You are not like this. By telling others and helping out other teenage parents (young parents) then you are spreading the message that it does not have to be this way. They do not have to end up just another statistic. Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

I'm supportive of young mothers. but then again i wouldn't encourage becoming pregnant at such a young age. not many people might have the luck and talent you did to continue your carreer, and already be buying a house too. My question to u is, 'how did u do it.'
but to show that i am supportive, i befriended a sixteen year old girl in my school who was pregnant, but she has moved away know and i haven't been able to stay iin touch with her. thats all i've got.

Answer 4

I think you are a very brave and determined woman and its great that you haven't just given up!! I think mothers are the main culprits for these teenage abortions...they appear to be the ones who persuade their daughter/son to get rid of their unborn child. I personally have had a premature baby who was 15 weeks early, he was born 23rd Feb 06. I am highly ambitious and I have not let having a baby get in the way of anything. I still see him everyday and I make sure that I spend time with him and I've just landed a new job that pays double my last job AND I can get paid for gaining more qualifications with them. I think more women like yourself should be more positive instead of sitting back and living off benefits and taxpayers money...I think that it shouldnt be allowed unless theres no other option. People should at least give it a shot before giving up... I'm glad to see that you are making something of yourself! Give yourself a pat on the back!!

Answer 5

How do you manage to do it all? If you don't mind, you could e-mail me, I'm always interested to hear about how others handle things or work things out between work, school, and kids, especially all on their own.

Some people just have the right attitude and desire to be successful, but there are others who think it's the end of the world and don't have any clue how to handle everything. Hooray for you!

Answer 6

I am a young mother also. i had my daughter when i was 17. i am 19 now, but i often find that people ridicule and judge me because i did have a baby at a young age. i feel that having a baby when you are young, if you are hardworking and provide your child all of their needs physical and emotional, and can find balance in your life, you have one up on older mothers. even when my daughter is 18, i will still be young enough to do whatever i please in life..even have another baby if i choose. my daughter will have me around longer, and i feel i will be easily able to relate to her when she is in her teens because i will be young enough to remember the feelings of that age. but i do agree that there is a lot of people out there who are agaisnt young parenthood and who judge you on other things as well like being married to the father. i wish people would either mind their business or offer advice if they must, but judgment and being disrespectful is out of line.

Answer 7

I think the negative attitude comes from so few success stories such as yours. The vast majority of young (and mostly unwed) mothers end up living in poverty and dependent on government assistance. Their children grow up exposed to crime and drugs with lacking access to education and then perpetuate the cycle.

Answer 8

no you cant!!!!! babies/children need mature adults taking care of them.