I have tried online dating three months ago. Over the period of three (maybe four) months I have sent smiles, and mails (free of course) for a number of girls, (of my age) and noone has ever since replied me or has shown any sign of interest. (not just those whom I went mails but NOBODY) I start to think that something either wrong with me, (I'm so ugly that noone wants to contact me). Or at least that might be the case, if you put up your photo even on such free websites where out or over 40,000 girls register themselves to find friendships, and still no one shows interest in you. (all of them singles). This whole online dating crap has just decreased my already low self esteem, and resulted me not caring or ever thinking of any sort of dating again in the future. That's just not my fate. What do you think have I done wrong? My entire intro was composed in an intelligent manner, tone. (not too serious, rather kind, informal, however not too joky either at first). Any ideas?
2006-07-18 02:19:03 · 7 answers · asked by seafish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(I'm 22, and totally inexperienced on the field of dating, or love)
2006-07-18 02:20:12 · update #1
everything god made had opposites. man, woman. day,night.
so everyone has a partner. she may be in North Pole for all I care. If you find online dating not working, try working overseas. You might find the right one there or something.
P.S. Don't worry about you experience in love or dates. Don't worry about your looks. Just be yourself and be happy, stop caring about dates so much, for it will come when you're least expecting it. =)
IF you were to go to gyms and work out, of course, definitely girls would be attracted to you. Think about it. They would be attracted to your looks and NOT your personality or who you are.
Its up to you.
All the best,
=)
2006-07-18 02:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by sabrynarox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to Sweet Sarcasm....
Anyone who has low self esteem cannot simply "not care" about things like being ignored. Not getting feedback from people just reinforces your low self esteem. You can date all you want for practice, but the second you get rejected, ALL the low self esteem comes back to haunt you.
Here is my advice...
Maybe your emails are boring, or weird...and that turns girls off. If that is the case, relax, and don't try so hard. Be original, and not like 99.9% of the guys on the net. Be funny...take your time...stuff like that. Online connections is an art form - don't be yourself...be some cool character from a movie, ya know? :-)
IF you have your picture on the net, and no one is responding to you, then it's probably because you are not very attractive. Sorry, but it's true. You could be a complete boring ***, and have the worst profile....and girls would still email you. lol. If your picture and your looks are the problem, here's my solution to that:
Work out, and work out HARD. Get a nice body. It'll take time maybe 6 months, but a sexy body is yummy...and girls will notice. If your hair isn't nice, go to a nice salon. If your face isn't good looking, get plastic surgery. If you wear glasses, get contacts. If you don't have a good job, go to school and get one - money will make up for a lot.
I'm not even joking...do not go through life with low self esteem - do whatever it takes to get your confidence. Trust me, it's worth it. Physical changes are the easiest to make...work on them and it will be no time before you are getting girls' attention.
You can't just "be confident"...you need to FEEL in your heart you are confident, and the only way to know it, is to work on physical changes that make you a better catch. Money, body, looks, personality, humor. Work on those, and your dating pool will expand.
2006-07-18 09:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out in the real world and forget about on-line dating! Work on that low-esteem issue. You need to show confidence in order to succeed in life. Old Cliche...You have to love yourself before anyone will love you! Try working on friendships first and then casual dating. Don't accept it as your fate to be alone. I am sure there is someone out there for you!
2006-07-18 09:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey bro!! First of all don't get upset about online dating that is like playing a numbers game. If you hit enough girls one will bite however I really dont know because I have never done that before. Second women like men with confidence in themselves. It's like how could you believe in someone if they dont believe in themselves first. Especially because you are a man too. Why dont you just try talking to women like you are just hanging out you know like friends do. Dont talk like you are trying to pursue them in the beginning unless they are talking to you like that. Just be cool and let it come to you. You may need to get your wardrobe up and a new hair style. But I dont know. Do something to revitalize YOU. Dont worry about what others think, do you, be you. Then you will get a women who wants YOU!
2006-07-18 09:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Karl J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother there is nothing wrong with you i believe if you can say may the road rise with you and winds must be always at your back and may the lord alway keep you in hollow of his hands and you will get that girl you look for
2006-07-18 09:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by vega 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man is supposed to pay the fee to open chat mail conversation.
those free notes don't mean anything.
absolutely nothing.
2006-07-18 10:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not send us your profile and perhaps someone may edit and/or help you out with the content.
2006-07-18 09:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋