Do i still love my ex?

Question

I think i still love him, he broke up with me after I found him texting another girl. I begged him to stay with me he said no and moved out my flat. its been seven months and ive heard from him by text every month, ive never returned his texts until recently,. He tells me he regrets what happened with us and misses me. I think about him every single day, i miss the fun times and the laughs, i miss his cuddles and his brown eyes i miss walking arm in arm with him.....i just miss him. we were together for nearly nine years but during the last year i felt he was more distant and that I was trying to cling and hold us together. I texted him back about meeting up and he said he was busy but to let him know when i was free over the next two weeks and we could meet anytime. its been two weeks, would he not contact me if he really wanted to meet me and cared for me. I dont want to chase him as I am scared. I still love and miss him. what do I do? will the pain ever go away?

Answer 1

9 years is a lot to throw away over something like that. If he wants to meet up with you, try it. Text him and tell him to take you out to dinner (you get a free meal out of it). See how things go from there. I would try it though, nine years is a lonnggg time.

Answer 2

You will always love him. The pain will eventually go away but it will take some time. It took me a year to get over my ex love. I still think about him every now and then and miss the times that we shared but you have to move on. And the fact that he broke up with you for HIM texting some other girl... umm, OK? Would things ever really be the same between you two? I know you would like to think they would be but if he left you so that he could pursue someone else for a little while then wouldn't you think about THAT all the time if you were back together? I don't know if that's what he did but I think its a good assumption.

Answer 3

I believe that you are only hurting and missing him b/c of the 9 years that you spent w/him. If he was texting another girl and move out that quickly, he all ready some one else. You really should move on, I know that it is hard, but you will find some one that truly cares for you and is going to treat you like a person. If he still loved you or wanted to be with you, he would not have waited that long to text you and he would not have just up and moved out b/c you caught texting another girl. Good luck w/your decision!

Answer 4

I think this guy is leading you on. My brother in Law is exactly this way. He had two or more girls he is with at the time and no one Knows abouth the other. When one girl discovers or suspects about another he gets mad and walks away but later starts talking to the girl saying he misses her and made a mistake and there is no one but her he has changed and wants to get back together. He does thisn because he knows she is waiting on him to call but he has not changed. I would forget him.

I know it is hard when you been with someone for so long to say goodbye but sometimes it is necessary. Pain is a part of life and it does go away with time. Sometimes it is Later than Sooner that the pain goes away but I will tell you to have hope. You will find another guy who will be better for you and you will forget all about whats his name.

Answer 5

let him go. It take about 1/3 to 1/2 of the time you were together to get over some one. if you we together for a year it takes up to 6 month to get over it.
9 years it will take 3 - 4 years to get over it.
Sounds like you need to see other people and do some growing on your own. Learn what you are like as a single stable person that is not co-dependant on someone else.
good luck.

Answer 6

Stop doing this to yourself you need to open your eyes and realize that it's more than him out there in this world he messed up and trowed you away like trash and he also made you look like a fool cause you begged for him back and he said no trust me he's not for you cause I know I've been through this like 3 months ago accept I met my exgirlfriend other boyfriend at a play and she dumped me and I laughed and move to the next person cause you can't just be on hold for one person that did you wrong just tell your ex you just want to be friends.

Answer 7

you probably still love him. everyone still loves their ex for a few weeks or so, but it's always going to happen so you should just focus on something else in your life. what did you used to do that got pushed out of the picture while you were with your bf for 9 years? did you spend a lot less time with your family? did you do community service? sports? say your life is 100%; personally I think that not more than 20% should be spent on love. yes it's nice, but what about everything else? your life consists of A LOT of things. focus on the other 80% and soon you will forget about him.

Answer 8

You ever read the book he's just not into you? The pain will go away eventually. You need to believe how amazing you are and that you deserve someone who will think you are better sliced bread and will treat you the way you should be treated. You need to let him go- learn the lessons about the things you want, the things you learnt, and the things you will and won't accept in your life.

Trust me, there are people out in the world that think you are amazing (your family and friends) you need to believe it too.

Good luck.

Answer 9

It is pretty obvious that you still have feelings for this person, but what the hell are you doing to yourself. Either take action or walk away. It sounds more that you would rather live in limbo with someone than have someone in your life. If he is not returning your affections then he is not worthy of your time.

Answer 10

yes your pain will go away. i know it hurts like hell. but you will emerge a stronger woman when all this is over. just hang in there. your relationship just wasnt meant to be. you need to make a decision in your head and heart that you are gonna let go so you can begin to heal. you've got to stop holding on. move on with your life, make some new friends. everything you go through now is gonna eventually lead you to the one your meant to spend the rest of your life with. just remember you are better off without him. you cant force something to work that just isn't meant to be.