Feeling a little used and I don't want to feel this way?

Question

My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me a few weeks ago in a very cruel and devestating way. I'm still reeling from such a surprise. However, I'm starting to feel a little used. For all those two years she was my whole live, she wanted to be with me all the time, I dedicated myself to her, listened to her when she needed to talk, spent time with her, spent my money on her, loved her and tried to be everything she deserved.

She was very needy and clung on to me and that made me feel special but she never actually asked me how MY day was, to listen to me when I had to vent any frustrations. This obviously lead to arguments, she wouldn't even let me walk away to cold down (i was abadoning her), plus the normal fights people have, I always made sure to talk to her afterward and straighten everything up.

We talked marriage and on the day I was to propose, she comes home with some guy and a van and won't talk to me anymore at all. I still love her and don't want to just give it up

thanks for the comments guys

I don't want to think that she was just using me, I didn't think she was that kind of person. Perhaps I didn't know who she really was.

It's been over two weeks now and I'm still really messed up, she's says she's moving on (that is when I was able to speak to her) but I just can't seem to.

It really hurt and came completely by surprise, we weren't the perfect couple who never fought but she was and still is very imoportant to me but she has shut me completely out.

I know I should move on and rebuild what's left of my life but I just can't seem to know how. I don't understand how she can be so cruel (she always hated girls who were like that). I know she may not be worth it but I can't help it. I love her no matter what she did to me.

I have no direction anymore, no friends since I spent all my energy on her, I don't know what I should do.

Why am I feeling this way?

Answer 1

Give it up. She never loved you, she just used you. She apparently had some issues and used you as her teddy bear. The fact that she never had respect for your needs or wanted to hear your issues speaks volumes. She never loved you, because love is a two-way street. You have to give as good as you get, and it sounds like you were little more than her security blanket. The fact that she accused you of abandoning her when you needed to walk away to cool down indicates her level of manipulation. You do not need that!!! Let her go, find someone who respects you rather than someone who uses you. If you had gotten married, it would have gotten even worse. You are MUCH better off.

Answer 2

DONT BE A DUMBO BUDDY.. look, you've been royally dumped.. it shouldn't have happened this way.. you better get her off your mind.. she was no good right from the start.. todays a new day again.. start over.. think fresh think new.. go on.. dont stop for her..