How can i get out of being a co-dependent charecter?

Answer 1

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My heart goes out to you. The answer is simple to tell you; but very hard to accomplish, and takes work.
To stop being a co-dependent character you need to STOP trying to fix your parents, and other people to feel personally validated or worthy.
Replace that (co-dependent) vain effort with fixing yourself. Where to start?
YOU decide WHO you want to be...by looking around at the GOOD points of role models (mentors) of what you want to be someday, and work towards that character...
work on yourself is a life-long endeavor,
and won't end...
A key to getting to where you need to be, is to NOT look to others (good or bad) to validate you, ...
BE YOUR OWN BEST-FRIEND. When you look in the mirror talk to yourself, and make WISE decisions for how you will behave on EVERY matter.
LOVE YOUrself in the RIGHT way. By that I mean, to do good, and feel it return in your heart to warm you and help you grow in the right direction...the feeling and the gain of good self-esteem is awesome!

While in the process of all these things, be generous, in realizing that people are just IMPERFECT. Your parents are imperfect. Your siblings, and cousins, aunts, uncles, clergy, police, EVERYONE is imperfect.
So, in their imperfections, they make stupid decisions.
Sometimes those decisions impact you....
the trick is to TRY to not LET them hurt you,
and for the ones that do it on purpose (in their imperfect mean spirit world), TRY to NOT fix them, but instead PITY them...
Why pity them (and not hate them? or fix them?) because YOU are the lucky one, my friend...your quest will be reached, their's will never be reached:
YOU will know peace and love
they will not (never)...that is truly pitiful for them.

So, in your quest for releasing others that hurt you from your life, you will be releasing your co-dependence...
Replace that with your CHOICE of surrounding yourself with ONLY the people that will love you and care about you, both friends, family, and your mate.
A good analogy for the evil ones, are they are a spot of cancer to your soul. When you cut them out, then, ya you are without a tiny chunk of what you wished could have been there for you, but since it was bad, and hurting you, you are FAR BETTER OFF without that piece, so that the rest of your soul can THRIVE wonderfully, and peacefully and in growing love and kindness.

Take care of YOUR heart
stw
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Answer 2

You give no details of the context that inspires your question, but my first impulse is to say you must like yourself. You may be an empath (someone who picks up on the feelings of others) and, as an empath, you may get drawn into others' insecurities or imbalances to the point where you lose sight of your own feelings or needs--especially if you choose a role as nurturer. When this happens, you may need some alone time--a time for reviving (reaffirming) your own sense of who you are and what you want from life. Do something just for yourself that makes you feel really good about the person you are. Once you operate from a position of self-liking, it is easier to pull away from co-dependency elements in a relationship. I used to advise my daughter to remember that you are the sun, and the planets (friends, lovers) revolve around you--not the other way around. Perceive yourself as strong and centered (sun), and anything less will not satisfy your soul, which means those in your life who would attempt to pull you to one side or another will be unable to knock you off-kilter. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

stand up for yourself - start to understand you can live without someone else - you can do it on your own - and you do not need that person to complete you - maybe a therapist would help?