After more than 2 years of loneliness I'm tired of being alone. I work very much, I don't have a lot of spare time but I want someone in my life. The girls I met all this time were not serious and love is simply avoiding me... don't know what to believe. I'm not ugly, I'm not stupid... I'm just unlucky? I'm expecting for that special girl and she doesn't appear in my life... sometimes I feel like giving up. Love is not fair; some have too many and don't know how to keep it and some don't have it... thanks for reading.
2006-07-18 01:48:28 · 5 answers · asked by europe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been alone for 40 years now, and it's OK by me. I have met a few women over the years, and they all turned out to be interested in what I could do for them rather than what we could do for each other. I have learned that there is really no such thing as true love. Love is an emotional and physical response at the beginning, and it changes with time. Often it changes to contempt (as in "familiarity breeds..."). There is no "special girl"...or, if there is, your chances of finding her are essentially nil. People have such high expectations of their "perfect man/woman", that they are invariably disappointed at some level when reality sets in. Love is not fair, and neither is life. We are guaranteed nothing in this life, and the universe owes us nothing. We are not entitled to anything, either. It's just the way it is. As someone who has remained single all these years, having seen friend after friend fall in love, get married and then get divorced, it makes me wonder why anyone bothers anymore. Of all of my friends, I can say that only one of them remains happily married to this day. The others are either divorced (some for the second time) or barely tolerate each other. I have cats, and they make excellent companions.
I am sorry I don't have anything more positive to offer...but in my experience, reality is a lot harsher than fantasy. You have a lot to give, but the other person has to give in return. People are a LOT more selfish than they used to be.
2006-07-18 02:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by gadjitfreek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that is so sad... I totally understand... Although I am married, I'm also lonely as hubby works shifts so, I'm home alone a lot. :-(
I get what you're going through.
xxx
2006-07-18 01:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will find you no need to go searching for it in the wrong places, it will find you trust me on that.
2006-07-18 01:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings man coz i am alone too!
2006-07-18 01:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Awais 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWwwwww..... :o( ..... u got me sad........ Well dont worry u'll find that special girl out dear when u least x-pect it...... just keep u'r eyes open
2006-07-18 01:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋