Help!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My gf's parents are just too overprotective (and orthodox by attitude) about her.
When I called her up, her dad picked the phone interrogated me exhaustively (and possibly scolded my gf after he hung up)
Now, she doesn't even respond to my e-mails (no more calls!)
Please tell me what I should do to setlle out matters.
I'd offer 20 pts. to the best answer which works (sorry, can give only 10!)
(Tell me if you need further details)

Things can be worse than you think people, she now has restrictions on almost EVERYTHING!
She CAN'T use the net, she can't call me (In short, there isn't much of a way to communicate)
And for all those people who think I'm jokin around, I'd say, I'm REALLY sreious about this, so forget about including "if you are not serious about the relationship....."
(this is as serious as it ever gets)

Answer 1

I actually dont think there's anything you can do- she is not your responsibility but her parents' and her own -- she is her own person but her parents have more on her than you do.
It's not your right to tkae her from any situation or try to put your influence where it doesn't belong (in someone else's family)
Sorry to sound orthodox perhaps but you are letting your emotions swell right now and that is why you don't know what to do.
I'd say be a total gentleman abot it- do not try to challenge or argue with her parents about anything. Omply with their wishes- be submissive and RESPECTFUL of that.
If that impresses them, and it will also impress her, it will work to your advantage.
If it doesn't impress them, it may impress her still but at least no harm will be done to either you or her (she wont be scalded for trying to date a jerk who is disrespectful to them)

My approach is "let things be". Don't create a rift or turbulence which could wind up being hurtful for her to experience. You want to treat her right, yes? Than impress that upon her parents by you maturity and patience.
A long-suffering heart is the best lover, better than any big, loud, or fast acting ones. That's what real love is.
So the question is: do you really love her, or are you just drowned in desire and other powerful emotions? I know you may feel strongly right now but don't be selfish because of you emotions- there are at least 3 other people in this situation. That may be what's causing her parents to resist you....

Answer 2

You're really not going to like this answer but...
I'd really leave it alone and here's why:
Parents have too much control. If they were to cut you some slack you won't be able to have normal "fights" that come with relationships because they will be waiting to tell her to get rid of you. Everything you do will be under a microscope and relationships by themselves are exhausting enough without the added pressures.

I'm not saying lose her. I'm just saying pick your battles carefully. This is surely a battle and a war you would likely lose.

I have to admit, it is a little discouraging to me that your g/f hasn't made the effort to contact you. Not even an I love you and sorry or anything?

Best wishes.

Answer 3

you need to call her Father and talk to him. I know this is terrifying...but he will respect the fact that you are making such an attempt to be with his daughter. When you go over there (yes in person), were nice clothes. Not too nice, but khakis and a button up shirt. Be very polite and respect his views. Then, if he refuses to let you see her, offer the idea of coming over to her house to see her. Say that you will hang out at her house, supervised. That way her parents can trust you. Make it clear that you are not using her for sex you just enjoy her company. If that doesn't work, I'm sorry, but you should move on.

Answer 4

I guess you didn't pass the "Papa" test. I think some parents, in an attempt to protect their children, take things way too far. If you are a good upstanding young man then you should hold your head up and go to your gfs home and talk to her dad in person. Let him see that you care about his daughter and that you will treat her right. If you get passed him with this approach then you had better live up to it or kiss her goodbye forever.
Good luck!

Answer 5

If you guys are under 18 there is not much you can do at the moment, other than dating in secret. Will you see her at school or out in public anywhere? You can try to talk to her in those places, but if her parents are cray with over protection then it may be difficult to get some answers.
~I hope all turns out for the best~

Answer 6

At this point nothing can work. The parents have made up their mind, unless you elope or try Romeo's stunts which will not work since your gf is not trying to contact you. If you are free with your parents you can get them involved so that her parents do not think you have ill intentions

Answer 7

The best thing for you to do is give up if she don't answer's your e-mail's and phone that tells you that she is on lock down and her folk's don't like you at all and maybe her father think your not good enough for his baby girl. I had to go through the same thing with my mother and father about my friend

Answer 8

I had this happen to me as a teenager, we saw each other for a while after his parents said we couldn't but it didn't last ling, it was hard when we couldn't talk on the phone had to lie when we saw each other it was horrible I know what you are feeling sorry I can't give you any insight, but be ready for disappointment. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Maybe you can call her father on the phone and ask to come and talk to him. Assuming your girlfriend still wants to see you, talking with her father and letting him know that you respect his daughter could go a long way toward making things easier for you.

Answer 10

You have to somehow show her parents that you are responsible and worthy of their daughter.

I don't know the full details, but if she hasn't called you or respond to e-mails, do you think she could be avoiding you herself? If she likes you, she would still be trying to contact you without her parents knowing.

Or maybe you are too young?