if your not in love with them anymore but you do have a baby together. we have been apart for 5 years but always stayed in touch because of our son. he did some bad things before but he has totally stunned everyone by getting back on track and going to college. he is a totally different person now, BUT i don't love him in that way anymore.
i know he still love's me. do you think it could work?
2006-07-18 00:58:50 · 14 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 26 and he's 28 he had a couple of GF's after we broke up but he always wanted to come back to me.
2006-07-18 01:05:08 · update #1
If you don't love him, then don't take him back. Why punish yourself more after you've gotten on with your life?
And just because he is your baby's father and still loves you doesn't mean you have to survive in a relationship that you don't want. There are plenty of guys out there that would love to be with you and your baby.
Never settle for second best and never put yourself and your feelings 2nd either. Stay true. If you don't love him, then this relationship will never work.
2006-07-18 01:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Warren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Years is a long time and you would have to take this relation as a new one. Imagine him to be a guy you have just met and who loves you a lot but you don't love him. What would you do if such a guy proposes you. In such a scenario usually a person would evaluate the pros and cons and take a decision. The pros in your case are :
1) History that you will always have the soft corner for
2) Child who can have a better future with you 2 together
3) His love for you
4) If he was good enough then, he is good enough now more so since he has improved as you said
Now look at the cons
1) You might not get yourself to love him, which can lead to frusteration from his side, leading to reduction in his love and commitment, bringin you two back to the square one and wondering why you made the same mistake twice. But as the old idiom goes "you fall in love" .. so there is no reason why you cant make an "effort" to "fall in love" and make the relation work out. And as i said earlier, this is the same guy whom you loved ones.. moreover he is better now
I believe, if this works out the self achievement that you guys would have would be beautiful and thus suggest you take the plunge hoping for the best and a commitment to make it work
2006-07-18 01:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by subhs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading your other questions it looks like to me that you are not allowing yourself to love him because you really don't trust that he will be true to you and not fool around. In this day in age people do not even try to stay together for the children, today it is all about "me". I really don't know what "ex" means anymore because people are using it to simply mean a boyfriend or a shack up. If you never married in the first place I feel there was a major problem to begin with. If you were married and divorced then problems were not worked through and probably never will be unless someone did some serious growing up. As long as you are comfortable with your "ex" remarrying, having a family with another girl... then leave him be. If the thought makes you upset... you still love him and get back together.
2006-07-18 01:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that although you may not love him anymore, you should still have him in your child's life. your child may not understand now why you are not together, but at least he will have some kind of father figure in his life. and, you said his father has changed his ways...well maybe that's another sign that things may go right this time. even if you don't get back together, because i know how hard it is to go back to someone who has done wrong before, at least you know that he is a better person. and to answer the last question, there's no telling if it will or will not work. you just gotta pray that it will if you do decide to give the relationship another chance. only you, your ex, and God know if this can work.
2006-07-18 01:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legitimate reason for getting back with an ex- your feelings, your emotions, your heart...You guys do have a baby together but to my understanding you and your baby are just fine without him..If you don't have any feelings for him in that way, why not continue the things the way they are??
2006-07-19 06:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are still in your 20's with a great looking body and personality, sooner or later you may be approached by a man in his late 40's with a nest egg worth over $3 million. If not go back.
2006-07-18 01:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad, but if you don't love him you can't go back to him. You will only hurt him in the end.
2006-07-18 01:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel he still loves u go for it plus it could be a beneift for your son
2006-07-18 01:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone better....with a real job and benefits...then flaunt him in front of ex
2006-07-18 01:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋