i've been with my bf for 8 years now...throughout that time,we've been so happy together..we got along really well..but all of these seemed to drift apart when he asked me for marriage..of course,i was really happy..i can't ask for more..he's the guy every girl is seeking and wanting..im so lucky to have him...but i think,im not yet ready for marriage..my life and career is just starting now...but yes,he's the man i wanna be with forever..what shall i do to let him know how i think and feel w/o breaking us apart? he's been good to me ever since...i can't afford to hurt the man who loved me for me and the man i trully love? im confused..pls help!
2006-07-18 00:48:49 · 6 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yeah..i think im a having a cold feet..but yes! i wanna marry this guy and i know and feel that its the right thing to do..my career can still go on..right? but the problem is..i wanna make the moment where im gonna give him my answer to be special and memorable to us,especially for him..since he's a nice guy...any suggestions on how should i do it?
another is..we haven't had sex yet since we started in our relationship..what do you think should i do with our very first honeymoon? im anticipating on it! coz we love each other..that's why!
2006-07-18 09:51:21 · update #1
Hunny, it sounds like you have a case of cold feet....totally normal! And here's the thing - you've been with this man for the past 8 years, and you know you've got a good thing going. It's just that now you're over-thinking that "I'm getting married" status and suddenly that big step with someone you already know you love seems a bit overwhelming! Have you started planning yet? Maybe some of that stress is wearing you down as well? It really sounds like you love him and you will be doing the right thing....and career, etc. CAN continue after marriage. You guys have been together for a long time....maybe a longer engagement is in order? This gives you more time to get used to the idea and get your career and the rest of your life sorted out. And talk things out with him. Keep the romance going. Tell him you love him every day, and vice versa. All of these little things will keep the fire going...don't let the marriage status freak you out! It's a new beginning to look forward to.
2006-07-18 04:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by jrhauan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand woman who have a good thing and always want to ruin it. Just cause you marry doesn't mean your career is going to break apart. You should have thought about saying you know what Baby. I think this and that before saying yes to an engagement. But also he can hold off the wedding. But if he's a good man don't let that go to waste.
2006-07-18 08:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you set a date yet? If it's not in the best interest with your career and the way your life is getting on its way, maybe it would be better to have a long engagement and just wait until mentally and possibly financially you are ready. Maybe you're just getting cold feet, but after 8 years, girl, you might as well be married! Best of luck!
2006-07-18 09:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by officefreak06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who simply drift along, searching for somewhere they belong to in this world. Looking for a place to call their own, they want to know where they stand in life. Years go by, but the answers might still be unknown to them, even til their very last breath on their deathbeds. Maybe that's what this journey called life is all about.
But living life is never a waste. When we have somebody to love and something to hope for, we learn to embrace the true beauty of life. Cherish every moment of your life because once it's gone, it will never come back. Sometimes you miss it so badly that it hurts inside.
2006-07-18 07:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 8 years!
For your own good is to stand out to him and say " Marry Me"
Its for your good! because 8 years with him, that is really long with a bf ! MARRIAGE is FAMILY! I hope u marry the right person you always been with! and when you got kids! tell them this
FAMILY!! FAMILY = Father And Mother , I Love You!!!
2006-07-18 08:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by ILuv2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u going to die
2006-07-18 08:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋