i fall deeply in love since less than 2 month ago...my love asked me to be with him in his country and that will amke me sacrifice everything about my prevoius life including my job...i love this person so much and can't live without at all...yet he is asking me to think more about that as he does not want me to regret my decision or hate him one day in the future..plz help me what should i do?
2006-07-18 00:26:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
something only u can decide! is it worth it, and 'will' you resent him later? all questions u should ask yourself! it's hard to do when u have only known him 2 months...don't rush too fast.
just what i would advise!
2006-07-18 00:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with him or the idea of being in love? It take much more than love to make a relationship work, especially one where one person has to forfeit everything to be with the other person. You say you can't live without this person, but you were living without him prior to two months ago. That's not love, that's some kind of co-dependency. If it is going to work, there has to be fair and equitable sacrifices on BOTH sides. Anything less, is a form of slavery. Think about it this way. What happens if you give your life up and you are trapped in his country, with his laws? How would you get out? How would you leave? Where would you go? Who could you depend on? If you don't know the answers to those basic questions, you should not leave the place where you are familiar with the laws of the land. If you insist on going, please take some time to research the laws and talk to other women who currently live there about what it's like. The only thing worse than regretting a decision is being unable to reverse it.
2006-07-18 00:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After only a 2 month relationship there is no way I would give up everything without without some kind of guarantee. Can you take a leave of abssence from your job so you can test the water in case it doesnt work out in this guys country? I hope this isnt all resulting form an internet relationship because I definetly wouldn't do it. Protect yourself.
2006-07-18 00:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be logical, can he provide the better life for you? If not, then probably no you shouldn't. If yes or possibly then you need to decide what you love more him or the job. Go where you will have a better life. Don't make your decision based on fear. What is he willing to sacrifice to make this happen? Must be something pretty big.
2006-07-18 00:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, sacrifice whatever, just don't come complaining to me later when it turns out this person wasn't the love of your life after all.
2006-07-18 00:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you realy love him i think you have to go with why? because at the what you will work for to collecte mony for what?. in the love you have to forget every thing unless if there is any childring for your own . but you have at first to be sure from you boy and see your future what it will happen if u resain from your job if u sure you get another one as easy go ahead
2006-07-18 00:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Abdullah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to him and STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!!
how can you be sure he is really the 'one' after less than 2 months? get real, give it more time like 2 years. if you still feel the same after that time then go for it. don't be foolish and rush into something you are bound to majorly regret!!!
2006-07-18 00:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
After only two months, lust is still filling your heart. Wait. If it is meant to be you will find a way. But patience is key. Don't do anything crazy.
Take your time, love makes you crazy. So try to keep a level head.
2006-07-18 00:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jon H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he is doing is letting you know to make the decision you want so you have no regrets later and can not blame him. Think wisely about it.
2006-07-18 00:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must take a leave for one year and then go and try to adjust. who knows u need to come back.
You can say that u have a baby and going on maternity leave.
2006-07-18 00:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋