but she's the reason i'm sat here with a pair of testicles that according to my doctor, have swollen to twice their size. she's already told me i'm going to get kicked between the legs again tonight for not acting like a real man. i need advice, and maybe some sympathy, from sane women.
2006-07-18 00:07:05 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave her. She can seriously hurt you and possibly stop you from producing sperm. She might think it's funny but it's not! If you don't want to leave her then get a camera and tape her hitting you. Then show her parents or the police. Or blackmail her with it saying that if she does it again you're going to go to the police with it who will arrest her for attacking you! You ARE acting like a real man, because the fact is that you're not hitting her back!
If you don't want to do that then grab her hand and pin her to the floor and tell her to stop hitting you, and if she cared about you then why would she hit you? Tell her that you could hit her but you don't because you don't want to hurt her. If she doesn't see sense then you will have to leave her because you don't want to live your life being hit and kicked by someone who loves you.
2006-07-18 00:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate I dont know if this is a serious question, but if it is I would have to advise you to get out of there. If you do love her I know this'll hurt to hear it, but honest to God I cant stress how important it is that you get out. You cant win, the courts in the UK will prosecute you as soon as look at you if you defend your self in any way, if you dont defend your self then you get the you know what beaten out of you. There are plenty of 'sane' women around - find one once you've dumped this bunny boiler.
I am not a sane woman, obvioulsly im a bloke - but you have my sympathy
2006-07-18 00:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, dump her. No matter how much you love her, she does not love you at all if this is how she treats you.
Secondly, report her to the police, this happens to more blokes than you would imagine. The same thing happened to me with my ex. She quickly backed off when she knew I'd been to the police. You don't have to press charges, just telling her that you've made a complaint will be enough to scare the sh*t out of her.
Trust me, move on, you'll be glad you did, I am.
Good Luck!
2006-07-18 00:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Heatseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she was a real woman she wouldn't do such a girlish thing, if she wants a fight suggest you both take up kick boxing and agree to fair rules. She's the one acting like a child, tell her to save it for the boxing ring, anger and passion are very close friends.
If, however, the abuse continues and you stay with her, you never know, you may meet a nice brunette nurse one day who could kick her ***.
2006-07-18 00:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like to think I am fairly sane so here goes.......
LEAVE HER NOW.
If you were advising one of your female friends who was getting abused by her male partner what would you tell them to do?
Abuse by either sex is NEVER acceptable.
I do feel sorry for you but now is the time to leave her or change the locks and get a restraining order - you do not deserve to be treated like this and if she loved you she would not hit you.
Good luck x x x x
2006-07-18 00:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering that this is spousal abuse....you could press charges....secondly, what are you not being a man about? Maybe she ahs a point....not tqaking the right actions, but maybe she has a point......real men would leave though, I am pretty sure about that.....or at least press charges...but don't hit her....she is probably woman enough to call the police, and press charges
2006-07-18 00:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love should not be a justification to stay with someone who is abusive and gets the kicks out of doing it. She enjoys hurting you and she won't stop because you are giving her the freedom to do so by not ending the relationship and she clearly has some undealt issues.
Love is not pain (intentional pain, physical, emotional and psychological abuse), it's kind, patient, kind and happiness. The girl kicks you for stupid reasons is that really someone to be with? Do you REALLY deserve the abuse from her and do you want to continue being abused?
Love is a feeling that can be felt many times for or with different people (boyfriend/girlfriend), stop wasting your time with someone who doesn't care for you as much as you care for her or you might end up with a bad taste for women. You deserve so much more and someone out there can give it to you if only you free yourself from your girlfriend.
Abuse is not only for women, so don't feel inferior for being abused it happens to all of us and if someone is being abused by their partner then they should free themselves cause we are all human beings that deserve love, kind love.
2006-07-18 00:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous and you are going to take it!! Grow up and look out for yourself. No matter how much I love my fiance - if he laid a hand on me that would be it. Don;t you have any self respect?
If you keep letting her get away with this you will run yourself into the ground and become so depressed - get out now while you have the strenght to do so!
2006-07-18 00:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/JAss7
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 18:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously has some serious problems. you aren't happy woth her i can tell that, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this question. never stay with someone that you aren't happy with.
Therapy works on only a few people, its worth a try, but don't think that it will sort all your problems.
Personally if i was a guy and a girl was doing that to me, i would have left a long time ago, don't let love ruin your happiness.
good luck and i hope that your happiness is improved by your desicion!
2006-07-18 00:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋