Each time I meet a guy and for a few days he seems nice and sweet and I feel we might get along well, he starts to act as if all that matters is a physical relationship...why?
2006-07-17 23:53:49 · 40 answers · asked by Nisha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all the guys are like that, think about how some actually get married.
Don't get me wrong I know what you mean, I've met some guys like that, For guys, they can get attracted to woman by just physical attraction, that's their animal instinct, but physical attraction doesn't last long. Believe me guys also want real connection, but that takes a very long time for guys to get a real connection with a girl and want to have a relationship with her....I think all we can do is not to let them get it, play hard to get, but flirt and tease them, keep them on the hook until they feel the real connection...good luck
2006-07-18 00:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tang Princess 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now this question has even been answered for me! Now, my friend is a self defense instructor, he guy bashes and all that. He told me that this question is always addressed in his classes.
Anyways, to give you the reply is that most guys just WANT the physical relationship. They DO the bare minimum that they can to actually start a relationship, then AFTER they think you are hooked, they go about doing what they were going to already.
Guys naturally fear being alone. (As do women, mind you.) However they usually take it one step farther than women do. If you are looking for that "special someone" who "GETS" it then try just being friends for a long time.
And always remember this phrase when in the dating scene: "a comedian can only keep up his act for so long". It does wonders!
2006-07-18 00:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kaisley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural desire for a man to want you physically. Tha is what attracted him in the first place. When the courtship begins he wants to have as much sex as he can. So If the relationship was to end soon he has had the chance to continue his lineage. It is a phsychological thing. Men in general are dumb when sex is concerned. There is no emotional conection. it's only physical. That's only in the beginning as time goes on if the two of you can connect on other levels then his physical attraction to you will lesson and he could love you for the spirit you have within. The sooner you deny him sexually the sooner he will respect you. I f he does not respect you. Then he is only after you for sex. You can control him if he honestly cares about who you are not what you give him in the bedroom.
2006-07-18 00:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by christsluv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well young lady, you must realize that many young men only want 1 thing at this time in their life. by no means do i think its right but don't go expecting too much... you will meet a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. if a guy is worth it he will see how special you are and wait till you are ready, if he only is interested in the physical and not getting to know the girl, then he's really not the right guy for you. just hold out and the right guy will come and you'll know he's the one.
2006-07-18 00:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by gottheanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was harsh. because guys think with there **** thats why! i think your probably just looking in the wrong places, go somewhere fun that you like to go and chances are you'll find someone with some common interests that likes some of the same things as you. the guys you are talking about proably are nice and sweet but after a few days his **** starts getting the better of him! in the mean time just have fun! smile! be confident in yourself! nothings more attractive to a guy than a girl whos smiling and having fun!
2006-07-17 23:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by julz m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.
Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
2006-07-17 23:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling your definitely mixing with the wrong guys that seems to have only one thing on their mind. There is pretty nice guys out there, I mean the guys that are gentlemen, knows how to treat a lady, etc. It's just that they are pretty hard to find. So keep on looking and don't get discouraged. You will find the perfect guy soon.
2006-07-17 23:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just bcoz u havent yet met a person who loves u
u r just acting stupid in the search of true love but my advice to u is tat u stop the search and u will get better results
its ur attitude tat forces people to think abt u in a different way. no one tries to feel ur emotions they just think tat u r in search of ***
and they think of providing u with
just keep a distance and this distance shud be untill the time ur hearts r close enough
just try this and give me the details of response. i gaurantee this will work for u. so do i wish u all the best dear charming lady
2006-07-18 00:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by miths 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 23:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kumaran M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do all want....we are driven for it but does not mean that "it" must control our lives
boys use "it" and relationships as games of power and dominance
girls/women use witholding "it" and relationships in games of power and dominance
having said that....are you looking for friends...or a "guy"
if yer looking for friends are you letting these guys take you out on dates, (i.e. they take you out for dinner, the movies, dancing or any combination of these or similiar events and they pay)
if you're looking for a friend and doing that then stop
if you're looking for a "guy" then stop thinking that the guys are not interested in a physical relationship and let them know before you begin that there will be none
You must be clear and direct if you say one thing and expect us to understand another you must understand that we will believe what you tell us
You must be firm or "the guy" may become firm
2006-07-18 00:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by murglefurtz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋