I am in love with my boss , who is married and have two grown up children. He is having a tough time with his wife and I think he genuinely loves me. He does not talk sex at all to me but seems to be taking a long term position in the matter. What should I do?
2006-07-17 23:28:04 · 17 answers · asked by Rupa R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take care with this. I am 36 and in love with a man 25 yrs older than me. I talk to him everyday, and although he is unhappy with his wife, he will never leave her for me permanently. He did one time and then he went back.
For one, you would be a rebound relationship, which, whether or not he is married, they rarely work.
And for two, he is married and this causes several emotional ties and complications. Even if he is unhappy...
Trust me, I know. These things are difficult. Take a step back before jumping in too deep. Look outside the box.
Him being older AND your boss makes no difference to me either way. Big deal. The issues are much more deep and basic emotional stuff than that.
Good luck... I am still working with my man. While he continues to sit down and eat dinner with his wife every night while I am home alone with the kids.
2006-07-17 23:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
If he leaves his wife, and I mean files for a divorce then you can go with the flow. Until then, don't even think about it. It wouldn't be fair on ANYBODY. Not you, not him, not his wife nor his kids irrespective of wheather they are grown up or not. My hubby is 15 years older than me, has 2 kids and I did work with him (that's how we met). I met him just as he was getting a solicitor with intentions of filing for a divorce. And he did divorce his wife. It was only after that that we were friends first, going out for walks ets (I am a bit old fashioned like that), and then the natural progress was a relationship. However we never slept with one another until we got engaged just over 2 years later. You have to take into consideration that you may get funny looks from people in the office (if thats where you work), and for this to work you must be strong. So your conscience is clear, don't do anyhting with him until he leaves his wife for good. Yes, 28 years is quite a gap, but it is certainly not unheard of. Good luck, just ensure you preserve your integrity, so leave the ball in his court...
2006-07-17 23:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to keep your job?? Do you want to break up his marriage? Look....jobs and affairs do not mix. Stay away from the boss and get yourself a boyfriend outside of the office. Your boss is not going to leave his wife for you, honey. You're dreaming and wasting your time. He's going to want to be getting into your pants, and that's the whole point of his "love" for you. Maybe you should think about getting another job, because you are getting ready to really fu*k this one up!
2006-07-17 23:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dnt mind being a second wife or marrying a guy who is married with two grown up children
Its up to you , if you love him then...i guess you have to go with the flow.
2006-07-17 23:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Incredible! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use it for the job then dump him when you find a better employer. Or use him for the reference to get a better higher paying job.
Oh yea for the rest of your question he does NOT love you. You are just the toy that is taking his mind off of his wife. If you don't believe me secretly meet his wife and see what she is like and ask her about their marriage.
2006-07-17 23:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get this man out of your system, the best way to do that is to fantasize.
Get a toy or, if your feeling adventurous, email me with your fantasies about what you'd like to do with him.
What would you wear, what would he be wearing, would you like to have him at home or in the office? What attacted you to him in the first place?
2006-07-17 23:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go there !!! DANGER DANGER It will all back fire In the end you mark my word. he may not be having a rough time at home.. he may just say that to make you feel sorry for him. he probably wants a quick fling then when its over you will be fired. what if his wife finds out ??? Not worth it.
2006-07-17 23:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until dark,notice his intensions,if possible fulfil his requirements and in future don't blame any other woman if she does the same as you are doing now. If you are married, don't cheat your husband,divorce at once. Remember in doing this, you are ruining other woman's life.
2006-07-17 23:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by dharap123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go,, you really dont wanna go there, He is never gonna leave his wife and kids for a fling,, it may be more to you but to him, it'll be a mere distraction for him,, dont mean to put you down at all, but your setting yourself up to get knocked down here babe,, see sense, you're worth more than that.
2006-07-17 23:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by India 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is on page 73, paragraph 6, of men's book, "How To Seduce".
It begins, "My wife does not understand me", and so on.
2006-07-17 23:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋